Young at Heart

This is a fresh, "can-do," no-stress, no-frills approach to women finding love and male companionship after the age of 50. I picked it up and read the whole thing in four hours, I couldn't put it down. I've read about fifty books on dating, relationships, and "mature women," and this book has got the jump on the majority. First of all, there are no Prerequisites to getting started. You don't have to be a body-Nazi losing two pounds a week to make yourself presentable to a man, you don't have to have perfect teeth or a trouble-free personal life, and best of all--you don't even have to have Self-Esteem, the magic key to success that is rated first and foremost everywhere else. I mean, isn't that most of us? Don't most single women over 50 suffer from doubts about their appearance, financial and emotional problems following a messy divorce or never having married? Many women over 50 are a little "too fat" by popular Madonna standards, frequently have money problems caused by lousy divorce settlements, relatively low-paid jobs (men in general make 50% more than women do in America), and suffer in loneliness from the stigma of being Older and Female. What a relief! You mean I can just begin dating right where I am now? Sure thing! Dr. Zukerman doesn't impose a lot of rules on the hopeful reader. In my own experience, "The Rules" only works in the sense that nobody, whether male or female, should become obsessed over another to the point of wearing them out; a little distance is what most normal people want in a relationship. It's really not necessary, as "The Rules" would have you believe, to play mind games and jerk men around in order to "catch" a man. Unless that's the sort of lifestyle you admire... Women over fifty don't have much time left to play mind games, they just want some love and companionship, and "in the end, only Kindness matters," as the popular song goes. It's true! However there are a few important tips: don't make a dating relationship a forum for airing out your dark secrets and awful stories about your past love life. You don't want to wear him out with bad images, but create a light and cheery identity right away, and keep it like that until you really know the man. Isn't that what you would have done if you were thirty years younger? Total disclosure is for bankruptcy, and that's where you'll be if you gross men out with horror stories and wild revelations at the beginning. Guess what: after fifty, you don't have to wait to make the first advance! Many men after fifty have been bit a number of times, and will hold back to protect themselves against further relationship disasters. So you have to get yourself out there and flirt with lots of them, even if you get rejected-just gut up and go for it! You have a goal-to find love, and a limited amount of time to find it. You can even ask a man out! You can even take steps to search out an old boyfriend. But steel yourself for rejection, and prepare yourself

I've always felt young at heart even after turning 52..but never knew the ins and out of finding and keeping romance. Tom Blake recommended I read, "Young at Heart." This book is Great! I've read it once, twice, and now again so that the messages become ingrained and spontanious.I can't beleive how nieve and stupid I've been about my relationships with men. So many errors and mistakes. If you're a single, divorced or widow woman approaching 50 or 50+ you've gotta read this book! Keep it near your nite table for review. Dr. Zukerman Thanks a million for writing a book that women "redating again for the first time can truely use!" "This book gets a 10+ from me."

This book is worth reading more than once. It gave me new hope and insight about romance and companionship. It was easy to read, and very uplifting for those of us who are over 50 and searching for the "right one". Dr. Zukerman has a wonderful sense of humor which is evident in this book. I highly recommend it for anyone who is looking for romance. It also applies to the marrieds and gives hints about keeping the fires burning in a marriage.

At last, a book that I love to give to my single women friends! YOUNG AT HEART is a delightful, inspiring guide to mid-life women everywhere who are looking for a wonderful man to share their lives. As a married friend to many singles, I have seen my women friends despair of the dating process and give up altogether, convinced that there are no good men left, or at least not ones they can find. Dr. Zukerman's book takes the dread, the dreariness, and the devastation out of dating, rejection, trying anew, and finally honing in on a person you can enjoy, honor, cherish, and befriend in your later years. She also takes the chance out of finding romance by making you accountable to put yourself where the men are and approaching them first--with class and better-than-good results! We all learn by example, and YOUNG AT HEART is sprinkled with real people stories about women who have made mistakes, tried again, and learned how to get themselves back out in the romance arena. Zukerman, thankfully, shows you that you don't have to be a gorgeous, perfect, fault-free woman to find a loving man. She details how you can pay attention to chemistry cues, 'love maps,' and lend an aura of 'lightness' to your dating style. With practical tips and 'bottom line' summaries, she gives women ample tools to better your chances of looking before leaping, deciding how compatible you are before you let chemistry take over, practical tips on smiling, 'lingering looks,' and other ways to show that you are both interestED in and interestING to the men you want to meet and date. YOUNG AT HEART, however, is more than a practical guide to dating. It gets to the heart of what women yearn for in mid-to-later life--someone to share the reacquired freedom after child-raising years are done, someone whose character traits complement your own, and someone whose sense of adventure and passion have not only not diminished but can be renewed in the crucible of a new-found love with you. With the studied expertise of a sociologist and her personal insights of a newly married woman, who dated many years before choosing her soulmate, Dr. Zukerman suggests that you widen your view of what kind of man might be right for you. She believes strongly in giving a first-date flounder a second chance to 'wow' you. Also, she offers with clarity, compassion and without judgment a decision-making process for appraising a potential partner who may not fit the mold--someone quite older, quite younger, or someone your friends tell you is not the guy for you. Is there an old flame you want to look up? Are you not sure how to get your "I am looking for romance" message out there? Zukerman gives you pragmatic ways to puruse the man/men you're trying to find--from singles ads to dating services to web sites to

As someone who clearly fits this book's target demographic, I was half suspecting yet another preachy, self-help book. I couldn't have been further from the truth! It was as if I was sitting with Dr. Zukerman over a cup of coffee sharing things we had learned in the course of our lives.I was impressed with the book's candor, honesty, and even humor. It offered me hope, yet wasn't polyanna, and truly strikes me as a reasonable, safe, sane approach to to the often twisting paths of relationships past age 50.This book was reccomended by a dear friend who had attended one of Dr. Zukerman's lectures in the LA area. I'm very glad that I took her advice and both purchased and read this book.You won't go wrong.