Xaviera's Supersex

I am amused by the current crop of sex manuals from the last decade or so, because so many of them are totally useless. This one is the only one I seem to use or consult with any frequency, so I have gotten rid of all the others (actually, I also kept the one by the dominatrix, since it includes good lessons in knot tying). Highly recommended. Most sex manuals in print seem to be written either from inside a medical textbook or from watching romantic movies from film noir period (this criticism includes a famous doctor who has a TV show in current syndication). The authors range from a dominatrix to a pair of milk toast sex therapists. For those who do not know, Xaviera Hollander was a big celebrity in the 1970's (her legacy includes a camp classic, "The Happy Hooker Goes to Washington" which stars Joey Heatherton, for those who remember her). She ran the largest call girl ring in New York City (a significant accomplishment when you consider her competition, which included the Mob), and wrote a couple of best-selling trade paperbacks about her adventures. In the end, she was deported back to Holland, since she was here on a green card. Hollander was one of the most successful madams of all time (her girls commanded the highest prices, even by today's standards), making Heidi Fleiss look like an amateur by comparison. She came to be so successful because she understands human sexuality so well (both male and female) and knew how to provide satisfaction. She became an unrivalled expert in these matters, since her business success depended on it. Another important factor is the fact that she genuinely enjoyed what she was doing and you could tell, and it was not just a way to line her pocketbook. The subjects in this book range from "belly-to-belly basics" to those things that are unusual, even by today's standards 3 decades later (since this is a family website, I will not go into specifics, but suffice it to say that the range of subjects covered are comprehensive). She has put all of her knowledge and various tricks and techniques into this useful and extensive instruction manual. Note that this book is specifically about techniques, and not about the entire relationship. The most important part of this book is the author's friendly, chatty, matter-of-fact attitude. It is sort of like an experienced partner sitting next to you on the couch, telling you how to do various things.

The 1970s produced quite a mob of sex or love guides. However, Xaviera Hollander's Supersex is unique and simply the best ever written. All of the other guides are concerned--either overtly or covertly--with rules and limits. By contrast, hers includes marvelous how-to sections on such taboo subjects as heterosexual anal sex, light bondage and sex in public or semi-public places. Further, the illustrations are excellent. In 1998, the book reminds me of how much "feminism", the "Moral Majority" and AIDS have really cost us in past twenty years, men and women alike. In conclusion, this is a practical guide, not for the faint-hearted or self-righteous.