Words That Change Minds: Mastering the Language of Influence 2nd edition

I am a person with an extensive NLP background and I found Ms. Charvet's book to be excellent. Not "perfect" perhaps but overall well written, lots of down to earth examples, and little in the way of jargon that has to be mastered. Whether you are looking to extricate yourself from problematic relationships, or become a masterful communicator, I would highly recommend this book. I think the book can have a lot of benefit both personally and professionally. Beyond the book, I happened to see Ms. Charvet give a keynote speech recently, and as far as I could tell she had most if not the entire audience captivated. I give the book a five star rating because it has dramatically changed the conversations I am having with prospective clients. I find that many more people are saying "Yes" to my proposals. The basics of my proposals are the same as they have been for quite a while. What is different is how I format the proposals differently for different people. The best way to know if this book is for you might be twofold. 1. If you read the reviews they are largely very positive, so you can perhaps trust the overall opinion of others. 2. Have a read and see for yourself. I doubt that you will be unhappy, and if you are really uncertain you can buy one of the second copies at a cheaper price.

As a teacher of business writing, I do not recommend this book to all my students; I only recommend it to the ones who are serious and want to take that extra step. I tell them that this is a book that shows you how to pay close attention to the words you use, whether speaking or writing, so that you maximize the impact you have on the specific person you are communicating with.I applied some of the concepts in the book to a case study in a writing workshop I teach. Students are fascinated by it. They often say things like, "I can't believe something so subtle could be that powerful," and, "I wish I had known about this when I had so much trouble getting my previous boss to even listen to me."The theories in the book result from research in neuro-linguistic programming. They use fancy concepts such as profiles, filters, and meta programs. But the author translates it all in a way that makes it easy to understand. And she gives hundreds of examples of how you can apply it to situations at work where you need people to listen to you, understand you, and even agree with you.If you work in human resources, this book is especially valuable because the author provides many examples of assessing how people think. This can be used to match people to the right jobs and to help them improve their interpersonal communications.I rated this book 5 stars because I think it is superior in all categories for a specialized communications textbook: powerful ideas, insightful author, meticulous exposition, and reasonable price.

Rather than discuss the technical aspects of this book...Through using the LAB Profile, I've become a better salesperson, businessman, friend, and father.I thought I was a good communicator and influencer before reading this; this book saved me years of learning by my own experiences.

Only last year (2001), two members of the Harvard University Graduate School of Education brought out a book snappily entitled "How the Way We Talk can Change the Way we Work". It's an excellent book but it was a little strange to see it referred to by some critics as "new", and an example of "breakthrough thinking".Why?Because although the two books are not addressing *exactly* the same area, Ms Charvet's "Words that Change Minds", first published in 1996, can readily be seen as a precursor to the later book.Although it is usually referred to in connection with Rodger Bailey's LAB Profile work, this book is in fact based on a subset of the "meta programs", or mental filters, first identified by Leslie Lebeau (formerly Leslie Cameron-Bandler).What makes this book so valuable is that instead of simply describing the meta programs on a purely theoretical level (as many previous authors had done), Ms Charvet places each one in a very practical context. She tells us not only the basics of each meta program but also such practical details as: - what questions to use to elicit a person's position on any of the meta programs discussed - how to identify what meta program positions are best suited to a given job - and how to frame a job or product advert so that it "speaks to" the optimum audienceThere is also a wealth of anecdotes from real life that illustrate the meta programs at work - like why the US was never comfortable as members of UNESCO, why a single word undermined one of IBM's big advertising campaigns, and why a Jewish mother may recommend chicken soup because "it couldn't hurt".And on top of all that, the book is written in an enthusiastic, flowing style that makes reading it both easy and enjoyable.Highly recommended for *anyone* who wants to understand the practicalities of how language works.

Carl Jung and Anthony Robbins are unlikely bed-fellows. What brings them together is an understanding of your reaction to my assertion. Jung's major work was in the development of his theory of psychological type -- using four scales to divide humanity into sixteen groups, seen most frequently now in the increasingly ubiquitous Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. More recently Rodger Bailey used his experience in Linguistics and in personnel work to construct a 14 scale model of scales useful in the world of organisations which he called the Language and Behaviour (LAB) profile. Shelle Rose Charvet trained in the LAB Profile with Rodger and has gone on to us it to build her own business as a trainer and consultant. Her book is written out of her experience in running her two-day LAB Profile work-shop, the style is light and friendly, rich in examples and clear in teaching. I enjoyed the material immensely, both from its clear presentation and its practical utility. If you want to know how to use language to influence people, or to avoid other people manipulating you then you really have to choose to buy and then read her book. I especially like Shelle's speech patterns -- "talking with both sides of the mouth" which are designed to address the breadth of a scale in a single sentence, for instance to communicate to both "towards" and "away from" people with equal effectiveness.