Will You Still Love Me If I Don't Win?: A Guide for Parents of Young Athletes

The book helped me see how my parents effected me in certain ways, particularly about my self esteem, and how I have carried that through to my sons. Because of this I have become much more aware of how I talk to my kids and I pay attention to how they react to me. My husband I and I talk to each other more now since the book about what we see in each other's behavior towards our kids. It is the only book I have ever read that really talks about the emotional side of sports. Reading it was such an education and so helpful in understanding how much emotions play a role in my son's approach to sports. I knew it to some extent, but not near to the extent I now am aware of it.I found that this book is not really just about sports, but about parenting, and it can apply to all areas in my son's life. Not assuming that I always know how I am impacting my sons with my behavior. I pay much more attention to how I speak to them, particularly the tones in my voice when I am disappointed with them. Until I read the book I did not understand how often my frustration or anger (often it didn't have anything to do with my kids) was negatively effected my sons, not only in sports, but in our relationship. Learning how to be more supportive, by listening to them a little differently and encouraging them--by asking more questions--to talk about how they feel about things. Appreciating to a greater extent how important this is. Understanding much more about how their birth order effects how they approach sports and everything else in their lives.I was honored to do a book signing and Q & A for our son's school,the author was kind enough to attend. The school sold over 60 books and parents responded possitivally to all ascpects of the book. I would recommend this book to anyone.