Widower

I've read many books since my wife died on June 18th, most I thought would be helpful to a woman, but were of no use to me. I really thought this was a helpful book. Several of the stories really hit home with me. I think I most related to Bill, but I related to Hank, Mark, and Randy also. Some people I could not relate to at all. (Peter, George, Jan, etc.) It was really good that I bought this book. The one thing I didn't like was the fact that nearly all these interviews were conducted several years after the fact, and not in the first critical year. Maybe a few were I don't know. For example Hank's was done 50 months afterwards, and they had to clean it up to make it readable, but what condition was he in the third month? Most of the people want help right when it happens and not a thing that they look for it 4 years after and all. But this is the only thing I've seen that really deals with the men's perspective, and it had a number of different men, it was just a great book. The commentary was fantastic, and was very helpful. I was very thankful that I could buy a book (although insanely expensive - I paid nearly $60) and find that there were other men that I could relate to. That was a great thing and it was worth every penny for me.

I've just completed this great book on the grieving plight of men who have lost their spouse. I'm currently walking that same path, only having lost my beloved wife a mere 13 1/2 weeks ago. I've read three books that deal with death/heaven, and so far this has been the best of the three. I plan on re-reading this again, particularly the stories about the men who are around my age (36) and how younger men deal with their grief. A must read for any man in my (or our) situation.

Most books seems to be written for and about widows, with perhaps a few pages about how the experience might differ for men. But this book is ALL about men -- their words, their stories, and commentary by the authors. A particularly helpful list of resources in the Appendix.

This booked helped me look at different ways men handled grieving and seen myself in some of the men. I seen that I wasn't crazy to have all these emotions and knew that I wasn't the only one going through this. It really is a great book for widowers to read and understand what they are going through.

Each widower should read this book in which the authors list interviews with twenty bereaved men and analyze the results. A friend of mine gave it to me three months after my wife died. I was depressed and had just started couselling sessions with a therapist. The book provied me with a great deal of insight on how other men were dealing with the most devastating loss of their lives. I recommend it highly