When Your Best is Never Good Enough: The Secret of Measuring Up

Excellent book. I found this book really hit the nail on the head for me. I highly recommend this book.

This book was very helpful in dealing with my issues of inadequacy. I have only just begun reading and already feel less guilt for things I shouldn't feel guilty for!

I really loved Dr. Lehman's book. He goes over so much in just one book. The thing I love most about this book is that I came away feeling that I was equipped to deal with the problems I face. He encourages, he's funny and he gives practical steps to take action and fix a lot of what is amiss in a person's life. I wish he could go into detail a little more on how the brain gets to certain conclusions and has certain responses to situations. He does a great job though of giving examples and explaining how to deal with the reactions/conclusions a person has.

This man is so funny about real life situations. His down to earth approach and realistic ideas on how to rear children is exactly what we need in today's environment! He is a man blessed with plain reason and common sense!

Dr Leman is best known for his book regarding birth order and its effect upon personality and characteristics and so I expected this book to be good and I was not disappointed. It is ironic, but the fact is that many underachievers are in fact not lazy, but people capable of excellence who have determined on some level that it is safer to gaurd against being judged by others by engineering circumstances in their lives, jobs and relationships to where other elements can be blamed, at least in the mind of that person, and they are insulated from the terrible judgement that they somehow are just not capable people. I was struck as I read this with Dr Leman's ability to tie in a great deal from the the field of cognative behavioral therapy which has moved treatment beyond a Freudian or Jungian approach that may provide insight as to how someone has become a defeated perfectionist, but offered precious little on what to practically do about it. Dr. Leman quotes from and includes many broad themes from this field, with several direct references to Dr. David Burns who is a leader in this field. Issues such as self-talk and coaching are addressed well and within the grasp of the average reader in an easy to read and entertaining manner. Well worth the read. Consider it a practical read for self-coaching. It would make a good introduction to this area of behavioral therapy and should be followed up with Dr. Burns' material for those that find themselves benefitting and wanting more. Bart Breen