When Victims Marry: Building a Stronger Marriage by Breaking Destructive Cycles

This book allows the adult victim of sexual or physical/emotional abuse to find healing. The steps described in this book are great for any marriage on a "shaky foundation". For those who are adult victims of abuse it helps you to understand some of the things that have shaped your lives individually and as a couple. Jan describes the steps to healing in terms of building construction. Interesting analogies. The struggles faced by victims are magnified when they marry. Jan Frank gives her personal account of the problems that came up during her marriage as an adult victim of Sexual Abuse. Her husband Don gives his personal account of growing up in an alcoholic home and his relationship with Jan. There is hope. The Franks give you a book well worth reading and applying. Professional counseling is required and they walk you through the realities that will lead you to professional care. I received insight for assisting those who are walking through life as adult victims of sexual or physical/emotional abuse.

This book was suggested by the husband of a friend. It helped save their marriage with a lot of therapy for both of them. The authors are very honest about their past, and how it started unhealthy patterns. I will be forever grateful that they wrote this book. I have been able to give it to other "SURVIVORS" of abuse. A wonderful book, but be sure you have a support system and a therapist on standby.