When Men Batter Women

I found this book to be both scholarly and highly scientific in its methods..the few people I know that haven't liked it are, unfortunately batterers or victims in denial. Judge for yourself. Interesting to me is that victims of emotional/verbal/physical abuse find the book informative and accurate; as a survivor I have to agree. If you or someone you love is living the hell of abuse, get this book, read it and give them a copy. It will give you the information and courage to understand and stop the abuse. The authors' criticism of the Justice System is dead-on and brings to light the paradox of a system that claims to hold "family values" in high regard but virtually abandons the abused via red-tape, legal witchery and downright cowardice.

I use (and lose) this book regularly in my psychotherapy practice. It helps identify the obstacles to leaving an abusive relationship and how likely it is that the relationship can be changed. I particularly liked it's attitude of, "One size does NOT fit all" and the empahasis on tailoring the intervention to the specifics of the case.

Until I read this book, I often wondered whether my abusive ex was truthful when he said that I was responsible for his behavior. I had no knowledge of his previous marriage and I was bewildered why it seemed that his violent behavior was restricted to our relationship. Then I read this book. I almost didn't purchase it due to lack of funds, but I am so glad that I made the sacrifice. It finally answered a lot of my questions and I was then able to begin the healing process of forgiving myself for believing that I was the perpetrator and feeling guilty for many years.

As a divorce attorney of 30 years I find this book was written by two (2) geniuses. "They agree with me!" This book should be read by every divorce judge, court mediator, family law counselor and anyone who deals with the problems of the family. When it comes out in paperback I'll give one to every one of my clients. Jude Thaddeus A. Powers Attorney at Law

This book is a spectacular guide for getting out of abusive relationships. The research is very well done and the text is well written. For all you women out there who are victims of battery, this book will help you out very much and it may even save your life. I can't believe I am the first person to make a public review on this book over the Internet. This book is a must-read for any battered women, men who are batterers, or any ex-batterers or ex-battered women.