Welcoming Spirit Home: Ancient African Teachings to Celebrate Children and Community

I am deeply grateful to Some for writing Welcoming Spirit Home and sharing how her community prepares for, welcomes, and supports babies and families having babies. I have worked with families for over 30years as an ob nurse, childbirth educator, marriage and family therapist, prenatal and birth therapist for babies and children, graduate school professor and family consultant. In my resesarch and writing a new model of early development that recognizes our fundamental spiritual nature and "new ways" to support our babies' whole self, I find Some' community has been practicing these principles for generations. When I read this book, I wept for the beauty of her message. I highly recommend this book to help us all remember more of our innate knowing of life, of babies, of connected living. Prenatal and perinatal psychology is the new field that is revealing more and more in our western ways how conscious, aware, and sensitive prenates and babies are. Our western science is coming full circle to remember how to welcome consciousness. Some's book holds gems of how her community honors and prepares for this sacred passage of the spiritual being into human life. I imagine reading this book on a picnic in nature and being nourished by this beautiful message.

The people of the Dagara culture relate to us that children have themselves recently re-emerged (via being born) from the world of the spirit, of the ancestors. They are fresh and full of wonder at being here, still very expressive of the spirit of the other world in all its truthfulness and spontaneity.Sobonfu's husband [Malidoma Patrice Some] has covered very incisively the funeral and male initiation ceremonies in his three books; Sobonfu, by contrast, goes much more than he (given the stated topic) into such things as the pre-conception naming ritual. Then there is the ritual asking the child [before birth] what he/she is coming to life to be, to accomplish within the community. Then everyone in the community will be able to help the child in every way possible to grow into the person that he/she would be. And there is the welcoming ceremony done for every child, each who has come on this long journey from the land of the ancestors to the land of the living. One beautiful feature of this is that the other village children (standing together in the next room) imitate the newborn child's first cry as accurately as possible to let the newborn know he/she has come to the right place.Sobonfu goes into exquisite detail describing the bounteous relationship between children and their grandparents. The old ones are all getting closer to the world of the ancestral spirits, as they are approaching closer to the time they leave this world, whereas the young ones are most familiar with that world, having recently returned from there.In another chapter she discusses how and why miscarriages occur, how strongly they affect the community (especially the mother and other close relatives), and what this has to do with the world of the ancestors. Then she articulates, once again, the rituals which attend the phenomena to help the grieving process that occurs as a result of this emotionally and spiritually traumatic breach [in the thin, permeable barrier between village life and that of the world beyond].And there is the bonding ritual [re-commitment between husband and wife], the fertility ritual, and the bonding ritual between the child and its grandparents, as well as other ancillary activities.Through all these examples she effortlessly and courageously articulates the vision the Dagara have of their life and community, so seamlessly it astounds you - the dawning of this worldview almost sneaks up on one as it gradually takes shape, almost from within the reader's subconscious. Her writing is the equal of that of her husband, as she dynamically melds all aspects together into an interpenetrating, wondrous whole."Children are the life-givers, the healers, the messengers of the ancestors. They bring out the spirit of the community - they bring spirit home. Children are embraced, celebrated and supported, for without them there would be emptiness in the hearts of all villagers." [p. 85]In her last chapter, she recapitulates and outlines in detail how to perfor

This book is infused with wonderful stories and lessons and the beauty and power of ritual from the West African culture. The writer heightens the readers awareness of the importance of each member of community and their roles and contributions and rituals to strengthen each individual thereby the overall village. She presents rituals in such a way that they can be done in America and by you, the reader. This is a beautiful book.

I loved reading this book! It helped me to understand so much about my life. The since of community and love that is transfused into the children that are cared for by the methods in this book is a story that needs to be told.The rituals sound wonderful and I only wish that I had this knowledge prior to the birth of my children.This is a book about healing as well as love and honor for all of nature.This book gives wonderful information to instill pride in my African heritage. Prayer and intent are also stressed in this book and I find both to be very powerful forces in my life.

This book has placed Sobonfu on my list of truly inspirational leaders. I was inspired, impressed and entertained by the concise, vivid and useful information provided in this book. It provides a vision of spiritual community, plus a few simple techniques for those who are ready to make their first steps in that direction. Principles like the ones outlined in this book will help improve our communities, and put spirituality back into its place as paramount to our well-being. A must-have for parents, teachers, midwives, family counselors, and administrators who want to improve the quality of life for the children they take care of.