Wanting Another Child: Coping With Secondary Infertility

Where was this book when I REALLY needed it!!! They need to reprint this because there are so many people who could benifit from this book. I have dealt with my secondary infertility for 8 years from childbirth complications. I have never really felt like I "fit in" with the infertile childless and the people who could have more kids. I recommend this book with 5 stars+++. It may bring on some tears but that is part of the process of coming to terms and the grieving process. You will read about how other ladies have dealt with other peoples pregancies, caught between two worlds of the fertile and infertile, how families do not really give the support you hoped for and knowing they still love you, the second child you had in your mind and heart will never be and you have to mourn for that child, validating your idea of what is a family, adoption as an option, and accepting an only child family. It really helped me out a lot to realise I am not alone and validate my feelings that I have had the past 8 years. If you are a good friend or family member dealing with secondary infertility get this and read it then pass it on to your friend. She/he will feel so good that you cared enough to give it.It was written by a RESOLVE counselor. It is an EXCELLENT book for husbands to read because they see this differently in a lot of ways and this book will help them see the wives point of view. I highly recommend it. Please reprint it!!

I had no expectations when I opened this book, having read a number of books on infertility. What a pleasant surprise to discover that Ms. Fishman Simons knows the subject of secondary infertility so well and provides in her book just what couples experiencing this very much ignored problem need for guidance. While reading it was emotionally difficult at times, I found many perspectives that matched what I had felt and some insightful comments on how to get past secondary infertility. I highly recommend this book to anyone coping with secondary infertility, certainly as a beginning to "recovery," and to family and friends of the secondary infertile couple.

I felt like Harriet Fishman Simons must have been eavesdropping on me because she was able to define my thoughts, feelings, worries and insecurities so accurately! This book has been my lifeline in an otherwise very lonely situation. Most other books deal with the problem of infertility and usually only focus on the patients where treatment is eventually successful. I needed help with when treatment fails and dealing with that. I was going to pass this along to a friend dealing with her own infertility but decided that I can't give this book up just yet. She'll have to get her own copy! I even went through and highlighted passages that I felt were particularly true or comforting to me in my situation. This is one book that I will recommend heartily to anyone dealing with secondary infertility.

The only book that I've seen that deals exclusively with the problem of secondary infertility--which some sources claim is an even more common problem that primary infertility or childlessness. Sensitively written, and a God-send to couples with this problem with many answers.