Voicemale: What Husbands Really Think about Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework, and Commitment

This is an excellent book which explains how men think. It describes in detail the problems my male friends complain about. Since the time I finished reading the book, I have loaned it to the wife of my best friend and the wife of my next door neighbor. Both women have read it and have said it helped them deal with their husbands. I highly recommend this book to any married woman who wants to improve her marriage.

Author Neil Chethik has written an excellent, thoughtful, easy to read and enlightening view of the world of married men. They say statistics can lie, and I was wary when I saw the number: 288 married men, I worried that the results may not reflect the "average" man who struggles with the challenges of husbanding. Quite the contrary, Chethik's results parallel all the major studies done about men, and reinforce some of the keys to a happy marriages that researchers have discovered in the last 20 years. I was a bit worried at the beginning of the book, because it seemed like all the interviews were with men in their second (or more) marriages. But, as the book progressed, I saw more representation of first marriages, and, in fact, like it or not, many men are already in their second marriage, so why not use their "expertise" and experience as well. This vehicle ended up being able to be used to the book's advantage, because it provided input into more marriages--the ones that worked and the ones that didn't work! Chethik's first book, FatherLoss, was a winner, and this book is the same. I recommend it to many people who buy my book: "The Secrets of Happily Married Men."

I've been married for 15 years, yet this book opened my eyes to all kinds of subtleties about my husband that I've never known before. And, since the book has men's point of view, my husband actually has been willing to crack it open. This is the rare marriage book that's actually helping my marriage.

In this fascinating book, the author of FatherLoss looks at what American men really think about women and marriage. Drawing on information gathered from a national telephone survey, and from in-depth interviews with some 70 husbands, the author found surprising links between good fathers and good marriages, between housework and sex, and between working together and marital success. Overall, I must say that I found this to be an absolutely fascinating book. You would think that as I am a husband, that this book would have nothing new to say to me. Well, in fact I learned a lot from this book. First of all, I found that some of the issues between my wife and I are not unique to ourselves, but are part of many marriages. But, most of all, I enjoyed the advice given by men in the book, it is a goldmine of information on running a successful marriage. This is a fantastic book, one that I highly recommend to all women that want to understand the man in their lives, and to all men that want to understand themselves and their marriage just a little better. I give this book my highest recommendations!

"This is an extremely wise and helpful book. The stories are fascinating, and the research solid. The thoughts and feelings of husbands are presented with insight and compassion. Women will better understand men, and men will better understand themselves. I recommend this excellent book." --Robert Ferguson, PhD Psychologist