Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

I read this book when it first came out several years ago and I still think it is the best book available on the topic of pregnancy loss because it is so intelligently written and profoundly moving. Its not just a book about loss, its a book about life! I have recently read a couple of negative reviews of this book--which seem to be based solely on the fact that the author includes abortion in several short sections of the book. I was shocked and dismayed to see that someone called the book "insensitive" for including abortion--clearly that reviewer is a very angry person! I hope that no one will be discouraged from reading this book because of that, because the compassion the author brings to both the topics of miscarriage, still birth and abortion is very healing for all.

I found this book to be a great help to me during the months following my miscarriage. Its focus is broad, but I found that helpful because it made me feel less alone. My husband read the section on men and found it very moving. It is not a how-to book so much as it is a book that touches your soul.

Reading this book has been a very thought-provoking experience for me, on many levels. I have read many books on miscarriage and other forms of pregnancy loss, but none has attempted the links that this book has.The author looks at the way in which pregnancy loss is seen by Western societies and explores the resulting effects on women who lose babies in different circumstances. There is much balance and sensitivity in this book, which is a tremendous achievement for the author.What I found particularly illuminating was the way in which case studies are used to look at how losing a baby can echo previous experiences, particularly in childhood. Whilst readers are unlikely to be carbon copies of the people described in the case studies, there are many subtle threads within them to make you just stop and think, and begin the fascinating process of making connections between your own experiences. I wrote down some key quotes from it in my journal, so that I could reflect on them and see if applying them to my own experience of pregnancy loss and childhood would reveal any new interpretations for me. There are not many books which achieve that level of insight!The reference section at the back includes Internet web sites, which reflects how up to date it is. All in all, a terrific book which the author should be very proud of writing.

Will keep this book forever. The excersizes force you to take a good, hard, honest look at the choice you made and help you to remember why the choice was right for you at that time. It felt as if it focused on the woman who experienced her abortion years earlier. I think perhaps my choice is too fresh to view so completely as the pain is deep and confusing for me still. BUT I will keep reading and rereading it until I have dealt with my issues for I believe this book can guide me to my road of peace.

Ms. Kluger-Bell has brought an emotionally wrenching subject to light in a warm approachable way, allowing anyone who needs to deal with pregnancy loss a way to do so. Because nearly all women and men will know loved ones who will experience or have already experienced such a loss, this book is a must read. It's also a good book to have on one's bookshelf for loaning to others in a time of grief from pregnancy loss.