Understanding, Second Edition, Revised: Eliminating Stress and Finding Serenity in Life and Relationships

I have used this book to help me understand myself and others. We are the ones that cause our own sorrow, no one else is to blame. I have given this book to my friends and it has helped them in their relationships with their families.

Of the hundreds of self-help books I have bought, this is the only one that I have read several times. It completely changed how I saw situations and people, which in turn changed how I felt about them. The principle of Thinking as a Function explains how a person reacts to programmed thought systems. The principle of Separate Realities explains how a person can interpret or filter their world. It is mostly a how-to book, though not step by step, with anecdotes thrown in.This book isn't about positive thinking (which is just another programmed thought system, according to the author). It's also more than reframing situations; it teaches you how to get to an 'understanding' where you really do see things differently. Some thoughts and detours the author discusses which keep us from peace of mind: insecurity, judgments, stereotyping, judgments from others, living for or against someone else, proving ourselves, working on self-esteem, anger, and the past. Ultimately, this is a book about creating close relationships with others and sanity with yourself.

This book is basically a blue print for a happier less stressfull life. It is guaranteed to help you improve your relationships with those you love. I have read it. I do not want to give away my copy. I want to buy six copies to circulate within my family. I wish it would be republished.

This book has changed my life. It opened my eyes about how we think ourselves into misery. I'm want to buy copies to away give to people in my life.