There Are No Mistakes: Becoming Comfortable with Life as It Is, Not as It Should Be

If you are looking for a book that does give alot of BS then this is the book for you very straight forward and so much common sense i couldnt believe what i was reading. There is one statement made in the book that i chose to attach myself to and that is basically when things get in your path dont look at them as obstacles but rather as a new way to grow and learn more about yourself. I have this in my collection and am sure i will read it again and find things i didnt find the first time i read it.

This is a lovely little book that will give you all of the inspiration you'll need to make it through the trials that life has to offer. I was so inspired by this book that I lent it to family and friends and have recommended it to many others that I come contact with. This book will be inspiriring to the older generation, as well, as Eleanor did not find her path to emotional health until later on in life. Through exceptance (of things as they are, not as they should be), and a nonjudgemental attitude, she made it, and so can we!

There Are No Mistakes: Becoming Comfortable With Life As It Is, Not As It "Should" Be by Eleanor Wiley with the assistance of Caroline Pincus is an informed and inspiring collection of practical and intuitive commentaries focused on the goal of achieving an overall betterment of self and self-perception. Introducing readers to diverse but effective tactics and strategies, There Are No Mistakes provides knowledgeable guidelines for knowing where you came from, knowing your own personal story; accepting yourself; owning your own pain, hurt, and vulnerability; laughing at yourself; finding community; taking care of yourself; giving yourself permission to change your mind; willingness to fall apart and put yourself back together again;, creating a self help "tool box"; and just going with the flow. An innovative guide and "reader friendly" introduction to self-discovery and contentment, There Are No Mistakes is very strongly recommended.

There Are No Mistakes is a beautiful reminder that in the ebb and flow of life, we are enough. Eleanor Wiley's humor and insights lead the reader to contemplate how to be accepting and compassionate with themselves. When I started reading this book it felt very slow and plodding, until I realized that I was trying to keep up with whirling thoughts and I was not "present" to comprehend the spiritual truths Eleanor reveals. I was reminded, that even though I may make a wrong choice, all is not lost. Instead, I can refocus the negative energy toward reflecting on the gift the decision unveils. Even though we have not met, Eleanor is a very wise woman whom I would call a trusted friend. Armchair Interviews says: A wonderful gift book--if only for yourself.

"This is an invitation to you-to trust yourself and your way of walking through the world, to notice your discomfort and shift to comfort. It is an invitation to acceptance." - From the book For many years, Eleanor Wiley appeared to be comfortable with the life as it is. However, she worked hard to make it look like she had it all together, often covering up mistakes, making up answers when she didn't know them, and struggling with the question "Am I doing the right thing?" At the age of 54, she recognized that she was an alcoholic and discovered Alcoholics Anonymous. AA and her version of the Serenity Prayer forced Ms. Wiley to confront her choices and the truth of her life. In the process, she discovered how to be comfortable with life as it is, instead of making up stories of how her life "ought" to be. One of the stories that she had to confront involved the death of her 3-year-old daughter who died unexpectedly one night from an asthma attack. Through the power of owning her story-and then telling it to others-she entered a place of accepting life as it is. In the book There Are No Mistakes, the author explains that there are no mistakes in life-only choices-and that beautiful, live-giving gifts can come from what we deem as "mistakes". AA helped the author realize how the tyranny of "shoulds" held her hostage and helped her release these imagined expectations. Through her subsequent travels as a spiritual teacher and maker of prayer beads, she soon realized that those who are comfortable with life had eleven attributes in common. Filled with candid personal anecdotes and poignant stories from others, this book intends to help readers cultivate those attributes: * Know where you came from * Know your story * Accept yourself * Own your pain, hurt, and vulnerability * Laugh at yourself * Find community * Take care of yourself * Give yourself permission to change your mind * Be willing to fall apart and put yourself back together again * Create a tool box * Go with the flow Ms. Wiley also addresses the mistaken notion that acceptance is another way of saying "I give up", noting that surrender takes great courage and is quite different from "giving up". In fact, discomfort and suffering accompany the refusal to accept what is. By accepting life as it is-and making peace with change, the only constant in life-we become comfortable, peaceful, and content. These feelings are connected to spirit, and have nothing to do with soundness of mind and body, nor any particular physical state. On this subject, she writes: "The plain truth is, Yes, I am aging, and saying it out loud helps me to accept it. If I can't accept the fact of my aging and be prepared for it, I'll just be miserable as my body continues to undergo change. I don't want to be a miserable old person, and I don't want people to be afraid of my age. I want to be present with age and all that age brings with it. That's what becoming comfortable with life is all about. No matter h