The Yes Anxiety: Taming the Fear of Commitment in Relationships, Career, Spiritual Life, Daily Decisions

The "YES ANXIETY" book was the one source that I turned to when trying to make one of the most important decisions in my life - whether the man I was dating was right for me and if I should marry him. Again and again, whenever I had doubts creeping in, I'd pull this book out and re-read certain sections to help me focus in on a particular discomfort area. I also read the title through many times over my 9 month engagement period. It gave me so much to think about. The most important advice that I got from the title is that one can never be absolutely sure about any decision he/she makes - we start out at partial certainty and then gain confidence with experience and time. We will never be 100% sure - if we're 80-85% certain, then we're doing well. In spite of my reservations, uncertainty and lingering doubts, I married my now husband. Things really changed - I still have some doubts from time to time, but my love for my husband just grows and I've realized that I will not feel "head over heels" in love with my husband all the time - it does not mean that I don't love him, however. All it takes is to hang in there and the "mood swing" shifts to positive feelings again. The book suggests to overcome in spite of these types of feelings and that we each have strength and the power of God to help us do this. Any woman contemplating marriage who is experiencing a lot of confusing feelings and doubts absolutely should be reading this book - she'll find that she'll go to it many, many times, just like I did. God Bless You, M. Blaine Smith!