The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

This book has influenced me in so many ways. I came in blind reading this book and I don’t regret picking it up. Definitely gave me more insight on patriarchy and how we can all overall dismantle it. Would seriously recommend this to anyone and everyone.

This book is incredible and bell hooks does an amazing job on critically analyzing the construction of masculinity in our culture. Defining the differnce between Patriachal Masculinity and Masculinity bell hookds articulates the amazing and critical roles masculinity plays in our culutre and the numerous ways that patriachry has prevented men and women from fullfilling their deepest desires in this world, which is the desire to love and be loved. This book has forever changed the way that I view and cherish masculinity, it is a must read.

I would like to give this book five stars, because it was a "breakthrough" for me. Until I read this book, I had always struggled to understand what 'patriarchy' was other than a word some women (and occasionally, men) used when they were feeling angry or hurt. This book lays it out in relational terms, showing the essence of patriarchy as the violence employed in the family to condition and reinforce stereotypical gender behavior. I see it! This book transformed my previously general societal structural critique into something I could see in my own life and the lives of others around me. Bravo, (and thank you) Ms. Hooks. That said, here are some critical reflections: the author does lapse into leftoid jargon on more than one occasion, and she seems truly oblivious to this as a problem. She mentions, in passing, pornography as a problem--but she never defines what she means (as though it is obvious, which it isn't). My greatest surprise of all, when she was pointing out things that are both symptomatic of relational breakdown and that reinforce patriarchy, was her mention of masturbation (of all things). No explanation, just one thing among others...as if, again, this is supposed to be self-evident to the reader. Masturbation an evil? How does this relate to feminism or patriarchy? If I could talk to her, I would certainly ask her about this. All said, a very worthwhile book that clarifies and answers some important questions...while raising some others.

I am a big bell hooks fan. I consider Feminism is for Everyone to be essential reading for the budding "women's libber" (haha gotta love a throw back). This book delivered as expected even though it did not inspire me to the extent that hooks' previously mentioned work did. I appreciated her analysis of patriarchial male culture. Hooks' choice of words gets straight to the point. She never apologizes for her opinion but at the same time her work shows an astounding amount of forgivness. Hooks' understands that nobody trapped within in the confines of a patriarchal society can be fully well. Though some benefit from this construct of oppression, ultimately nobody wins. The empathy that Hooks' expresses towards men that have hurt her in the past is prove positive that she is a member of the rare group of authors who posses the ability to put their conflicting views on paper without sounding indecisive. Hooks' dreams of a world free of oppression. Her believe that we CAN transform our toxic culture into one that nurtures all of the people that it surrounds, is uplifting. Hooks' work inspires discussion. She clearly states her opinion but remains open to dissenting views. Her critique of the Harry Potter books is not to be missed (I KNEW there was a reason that I never liked that series)! This book has something for everyone. All people would benefit from reading it.

"The Will to Change" by bell hooks is one of the best books I have ever read. bell hooks gets to the heart of the ways in which most of us (men and women, people of all classes and races) are harmed by patriarchy, as well as exposing the ways in which we unconsciously replicate it in our personal lives. Her ideas are big enough to include all people who are struggling with division, oppression, and/or general un-wholeness and unhappiness, not just women. She suggests that the way to freedom is for us to love each other and support each other on our journies to wholeness. She clearly and consistently frames the struggle as one of hurting people yearning to be whole and free. This is a theory that is accessible to everyone - anyone who searches their heart, or just observes the society around them, can see that what she says is true. As a feminist who is married and loves men, I found her advice to be full of wisdom, with a refreshing lack of intellectual elitism. After reading this wonderful work, I am more convinced than ever that heart and soul are the primary components of our future evolutionary path. Hats off to you, ms. hooks!