The Single Truth

This book is really fantastic! A friend of mine did a small group based on the book and although I wasn't able to attend the group I read the book anyway and I am glad I did! It really is honest about how it feels to be a single and for the first time in over 4 years I feel ok about my singleness! There are times in the book when Lori Smith must have heard my prayers because she says exactly what I am feeling (especially about that old phrase, "You'll find someone" - how irritating!). This book is really a blessing for any single to get a grip on what a blessing being single can be!

As an author whose writes about singleness and the Christian life, I've had occasion to read a LOT of books on singles and singleness (an occupational hazzard). Lori Smith's The Single Truth is by far the best book on the subject that I have ever picked up. In a style that is at once emotionally honest and vulnerable, yet thoroughly grounded in God's Word, Lori carries us along on her own personal (yet universal) journey as a Christian single who's disillusioned with a God who fails to do for us the things we think He should. In her quest for understanding, she moves us from a place of desperation to faith, loneliness to community, falsehood to life-giving truth. There isn't a single anywhere (man or woman) who won't immediately relate to Lori's honest account of her struggles as a single. Her brazen honesty is refreshing--but she doesn't stop there. She goes beyond the struggle to search for genuine, realistic answers in God's Word...and she finds them. The biblical truths she shares aren't simplistic and they aren't churchy; they're real, perhaps even gritty. And they're powerful.If you're looking for a book that encourages you to wallow in self-pity, or simply rants along with you about what a rotten hand you've been dealt in this life, then this isn't the book for you. But if you're really looking for a way out of the quiet despair that plagues so many singles, then Lori's book is the place you should begin.

This is not a sugar-coated book, saying, "God will give you a matein time if you only trust him," etc.It is an insightful and blunt view of how single Christians should live, accepting their desires and understanding that not everyone will marry.However she also places the marriage question in a wider context.Following the tradition of C.S.Lewis, she asks questions thatmost modern Christian writers simply ingnore. Why do horrible things happen to good people? Why are so many of our desires remain unfilled?..and may always be unfilled?Why do people who do "their own things" often have happy lives, but people who do all the "right things" according to God mayfind themselves alone?This is not a good friend giving words of comfort to fellow singles friends. She writes as a good friend telling single friends what they need to hear.Lori Smith is a gifted writer, and it is a very enjoyable book to read and skim, but be forewarned she is an adult writing to other adults. Expect uncomfortable questions to be faced head on.

This book really resonated in me, and I believe that it addresses a rarely-discussed issue in the church. I appreciate her honesty when Smith reiterates that she still struggles to believe the Scripture in her heart, and not just in her head. The book also covers a wide scope - from dispelling lies about marriage/singleness, to a dabbling in predestination vs. free will, to challenging the perceived definition of contentment, to offering hope that we can change our thinking about ourselves and our beliefs about singleness.Best of all, it challenges us to pursue God first, and places the all-importance of marriage in its proper place. Many existing Christian books on relationships make the unbiblical assumption that marriage is better than singleness, and that the key to contentment is patience. The author avoids a closed, authoritative tone, but instead, asks real questions, presents answers and grounds her arguments with relevant Scripture. The Single Truth is a refreshing product of courage, honesty and commitment to Christ-likeness, and is sure to be an encouragement to many.

I was single until 33 and read many books on relationships and singleness. This is the first one I've read devoted to being content as a single. Even though I'm married now, I can definitely relate to this book. I highly recommend this for both single men and women (don't let the cover fool you), as well as married couples. It provides a fresh perspective on being content at where you're at. Many singles are so focused on dating and getting married that they forget God's perspective. Please check this out no matter what your gender or marital status!