The Sex-Starved Wife: What to Do When He's Lost Desire

I think this is a great book well worth the money. Until I got this book I thought I was alone. Has a lot of great ideas and possible reasons why your husband doesn't want to have sex anymore.

Finally, a book addressing a problem many wives encounter but many husbands would deny even exists! Enough of hearing on television and radio the popularly held myths that "Most men want sex all the time. Low sexual desire is only a woman's problem. Some men lack sexual desire, but the prevalence of low desire in men is extremely low. & Men who aren't interested in sex must have a sexual dysfunction of a serious medical condition. Otherwise they'd be ready to go."! Let's be fair and look at the WHOLE picture. To date it has been far to easy for researchers to study the subject of low desire in women. As the author points out, many studies have been conducted on this topic and so few about low desire in men one has to wonder whether all these researchers are men! Yet researchers finally did identify HSDD (hypoactive sexual desire disorder or low desire), something MORE prevalent in men than in women. Low desire appears to be an equal opportunity employer when it comes to gender. Unfortunately to date also too many women have had a tendency to blame themselves for the existance of this problem. This is not true of most men who have low desire wives. This book offers a variety of explanations beside a physical erectile dysfunction for the lack of sexual desire in some men. As a social worker, I see this book as liberating to female clients who suffer from low self esteem not knowing what to think of the cause of their male partner's problem.

All these years, 33 of them, I thought it was me and it wasn't. All these years I suffered with no one to talk to who understood my pain. I could hardly read this book without crying with such pain....I didn't even know I had. My husband was moved and we are now going on a path that is giving us answers. Thank you! At last! I am understood.

There is "The Sex-Starved Wife" and "The Sex-Starved Marriage", so... what, there's no market for this?

The Sex-Starved Wife Wow! I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this title. I have been a sex-starved wife for more years than I can count. My marriage has been empty and loveless because my husband has no desire for me. My friends all complain that their husbands are always wanting sex and I feel so uncomfortable during those discussions because I feel like a freak of nature. It makes me feel as if something is dreadfully wrong with me. I don't even share what happens in my relationship because I'm mortified. I have felt so alone. But now that I've read this great book, I KNOW I am not alone. As I read all the letters from women in my shoes, I cried because I know the pain they have been feeling. I understand how bad it feels to be so hurt and have your husband be unwilling to do anything about it. He doesn't even want to talk to me about it anymore. Weiner Davis explains why men loose desire, but the best part is that she gives concrete suggestions for getting your husband to be more receptive to doing something about the problem. I am so grateful that I read this book because I feel better about myself and I have even made some headway with my husband. He's agreed to read part of it and to speak to a doctor! I've been trying to get him to do something, anything for a long time and he's just gotten defensive. So, this book marks a major turnaround in my marriage. I can't say for sure what will happen next, but I can tell you that at least we're talking and he's showing some willingness to care about my feelings. That's huge. I strongly suggest that if you're a woman whose husband is disinterested sexually, you get this book. It can change your marriage.