The Secret Language of Feelings A Rational Approach to Emotional Mastery

I was truly impressed by the simplicity of the message. It is concise and straightforward, easy to read, and has the beauty that comes with speaking the truth in a simple, meaningful way. It sums up in a nutshell, much of the emotional detective work that is at the heart of hynoanalysis. It looks at the causes of negative feelings, frustration and depression. It brings this whole chain of meaning into simple, clear focus. It discusses primary feelings, such as anger, fear, guilt, etc., and then moves on to secondary feelings - frustration. Ultimately, the tertiary effect of these is depression, the emotional defense that gets us to back off and stop beating our head against the wall. But the best thing about it was the focus it brought to my own life. Each of us has issues to deal with, pressures at work, home, etc. They are the things in life over which we have no control, but which bring up negative emotions within us. In alot of ways, this helped me bring the dynamics of feelings about these into focus. Cal has a number of exercises in his book, called the 1-2-3 process: 1) Identify (and name) the feeling behind the emotion 2) Identify the primary cause 3) Find a way to deal with the primary casue In alot of ways, these steps may not be as simple as they might sound, but they make a great framework for awareness and healing. He has exercises for the whole spectrum of at-issue feelings, as described above. But the bottom line is that feelings - even negative ones - are good. We can learn from them. They are a signal that something in our lives needs to change. Ultimately, I found this to be both a great primer for use with my own hypnotherapy clients clients, and a guide to dealing with various BS'ish things that crop up in daily life. In short, The Secret Language of Feelings is a simple, beautiful study of the dynamics behind our emotions, something that anyone can use both at an intellectual level, and in their own self-healing work.

I bought this book to better understand why I had the feeling about things that I do and it did a pretty good job of that. I'll have to read through it again to brush up but I liked it. It also helped me understand people better and why they behaved the ways they do.

Calvin Banyan has a knack for explaining complex concepts simply, so anyone can understand them. He revolutionized the hypnotherapy profession by developing processes that work efficiently and consistently. Now in this book, he opens the lid on all those feelings that we thought were bad. He explains why we feel the things we do, how to understand and interpret those feelings we prefer not to experience (feelings are often in disguise!), and then provides steps to deal with them, eliminating their negative effect. You could change your life! I am so impressed by this book and by Calvin Banyan's other work, that it has heavily influenced my work, philosophy of life, and my own book on achieving genuine happiness. Highly recommended!

I struggled my whole life with what I felt, especially when it was uncomfortable. I even mastered the art of numbing my feelings until grace brought me to Calvin Banyan door.Calvin is my first teacher in the world of hypnosis and hypnotherapy. I did went to him to learn how to become a hypnotherapist but he taught me so much more and most importantly he is the first human being ever who taught me about my feelings.In this book he poured his heart and shared his knowledge and wisdom in an area where very little is taught or ever known. I highly recommend this book to anyone seeking growth and change in their lives and to everyone else as a matter of a fact. What I learned from Calvin's The Secret Language I am still digesting and it has been 2 years now. I heavily use it in my practice to help my clients achieve much needed changes in their lives and I use it on daily basis for my own (now when I get uncomfortable I automatically stop everything and ask myself "What am I feeling?) and it has served and still serves me well. I no longer pretend or deny myself the right to be. I am grateful to the author for ever and thereafter.

Feelings and the attending emotions, they are the begining of many illnesses. You can now understand what they mean and how to overcome or nutralize the trouble caused by them.A shocking statement: "All feelings are GOOD" With that as a fact, all feelings can be understood and dealt with. Without hours of talk therapy ruminating on these feelings.