The Psychology of Intimacy

The author does an excellent job of exploring the subject of intimacy: from an educational (and fascinating) discussion of how it may be defined), to a stage-by-stage description of its role at various points of the life cycle, to ideas for further research. Throughout the text are thorough references to the literature supporting every idea presented - a very scholarly work. She avoids the pitfall of many authors in psychology of one-dimensionally limiting their presentation based on allegiance to a particular 'school' of psychology/therapy. The main drawback is that at this point (2010) the book is 15 years old. A thorough updating would add to its value. Despite this, I would recommend it to anyone interested in the field of intimacy (which should be everyone!).

Author's comments: This book is an exhaustive review of what we know about intimacy in couple relationships, friendships, and parent-child relationships. It traces the precursors of intimacy from infancy through old age, discusses nonverbal and verbal aspects of intimacy, and considers how close relationships fulfill intimacy needs.