The Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up

Kent gave this book a low rating because the book doesn't tell people how to FIX their Peter Pan man.I was NOT shocked that the writer of this review was a man. Many men almost always want to fix things, even if they don't understand what is going on. Kent's silly review of this very good book shows just how simplistic unaware people can be. Rule of psychology: NO one person can fix another person. If you are in a relationship and you are trying to fix the other person, you are wasting your time.Second rule of psychology: A person needs to KNOW what is wrong with them and have someone show them the symptoms, so that they can identify their issues. Then the way to fix it, my Dear Kent, is to get that person to see a therapist and let the professional help you. You don't need to know how to fix it, Kent. If you had brain cancer, I would assume you wouldn't operate on yourself. I do think that you are the type that would never ask for directions.All in all, the point of this is to negate Kent's super-ridiculous review of a very good book. Ignore Kent and all of his machismo. I am a therapist, and I see men like Kent in my office all of the time. They never come on their own, their wives are just fed up with them.

I was married to a man that I could never figure out the way he reacted in his daily life. He was very much still dependant on his family for financially support; played well with children and animals. From my understanding he was put into a boarding home at age 2 years old--so, this may somehow interferred with his bonding with his mother and father that caused some of his problems. Later in his teen years and adult years he became a severe alocholic; an abuser to women and a person when his mother was not around dependant on other women. Would rather sat at home playing games all day long than working and when working would fantisize about being someone he was not; and tried to convince other people he was a zillionaire or should be treated as royalty.I also have a brother who is like this; and I too do not know today how to deal with him,but, the book opened my eyes letting me know that I am not the one that is crazy nor the one with this snydrome. I would recommend the book to everyone; I just wish that Opral Winfrey would have Dr. Dan Kiley on her show so that the world could hear the Doctor speak on this syndrome and have a better understanding about the syndrome and the people they have to deal with on a daily basis who has this problem.Just look at Michael Jackson and read this book--wow,surprise, surprise, Mrs. Jackson (mother of Michael) a book written about your son. And, maybe people will not look as Michael as so different any more:as there are thousands and thousands of men that have this syndrome. This syndrome does not make a bad person--it just means the person is still somehow caught in the time of his childhood and has never let go; for fear, security or whatever reason the person still feel safer is this part of his world. Who knows--Michael Jackson seems to be happy all the time. Anyway, read it people and understand the people better you deal with and quit calling them different and nutty. us tlove them for who they are. You can not change them. You can only support who they are and enjoy whatever time you can tolerate being around them.

Of all I've read on Narcicism and relationships, this book is the best I've found. Most of the literature that I've seen is tailored for professionals, but this is written specifically for patients, their families and their partners. Kiley uses developmental specifics and case studies to create a usable image for those trying to understand narcicism and how it manifests itself in adolescents and adults. I highly reccomend it to anyone with an interest in this area.

I am able to say that because I myself experienced married to a man that fits 90 % of what Dr. Dan Kiley described in his book. When I got divorced from my husband, I was very shocked and could not believe of what had happened to me. I visited andrologist, priest, psychologist, psychiatrist just trying to understand `why' and `how' till I found a book called `Peter Pan Syndrome'. I bought the book because the title attracted my attention. When I read it, I was surprised that every detail Dr. Kiley described helped me understand how could that unbelievable experience happened without me being aware to any of it. It is probably difficult for anybody who has never experienced it to understand but for me it does help me quite a lot. Thank to Dr. Kiley for his marvellous work.