The Pain Behind the Mask

I found this in the library and was so impressed with the information I bought a copy for continued reference. It explained a LOT about why I react the way I do in certain situations. Using the knowledge, I have improved my relationship with my wife, children, and friends. It has even given me insight into relationships at work (esp male to male.) I found the title a bit off putting, but applicable.

I am just reading the book for the second time and am finding it even more enjoyable than when I first read it.Rare is it that you come across a modern book these days on gender or gender issues that isn't simplistic, uninsightful or trite.Finally, a big step in the right direction in understanding what it means to be human, what it means to be of the male gender.Bravo!

Having trouble with the man in my life and wanting to help, I set out to find answers. This book is a great window into the head of the men in your life, and the reasons why they do what they do. It gives alot of background info, as well as some advice on how to change things for the better. The book is aimed at men, by men, so isn't preachy, or threatening,- but I definately recommend it for women to read before they pass it on to the guys. Ultimately, it's the man that has to want to heal, but understanding what they're going through can help the women be there for them while they do.

This book should be required reading for both men and women,since we all want happy relationships.Because male depression goes unrecognized and leads to self-neglect,violence and abuse, society is dealing with the repurcussions constantly.For me, the best part of the book was the steps that men need to undertake to change. At the end of every chapter, affect, behavior and cognition instructs how to do this. As the mother of two boys, and the ex-wife of a man who has never acknowledged his depression this book has given me insight into the culture that unfortunately sees this inability to relate as being"male"This is a much needed book!

This book should be required reading for both men and women,since we all want happy relationships.Because male depression goes unrecognized and leads to self-neglect,violence and abuse, society is dealing with the repurcussions constantly.For me, the best part of the book was the steps that men need to undertake to change. At the end of every chapter, affect, behavior and cognition instructs how to do this. As the mother of two boys, and the ex-wife of a man who has never acknowledged his depression, this book has given me insight into the culture that unfortunately sees this inability to relate as being"male"This is a much needed book!