The New Dare to Discipline

Arrived on time Good book

I found this book to be great to teach me how to discipline my child.

I read the original Dare to Discipline book when my first two kids were 5 and 3 yrs old. The book taught my wife and I that much of what our old fashioned parents did in the way of spanking and punishment was really for our own good. But the book did more than that, it taught us that NOT everything our parents did was healthy or esteem building. Dr Dobson stressed that spanking was best limited to willful disobediance and unsafe/harmful behavior. I've seen the opposite of this philosophy so many times at the Mall, the Grocery Store and the ball field it makes my head spin. Too many parents yell at their kids or ask their kids over and over again to do this or go there...and the kids merely blow them off. Why should they obey when there are no serious consequences for disrespect behavior? Other parents pull out the belt or paddle for all deviations (which, of course, borders on abuse). Anyway, my wife and I spanked occasionally when our kids were blowing us off...when they were purposefully hurting other kids...when they acting in an unsafe manner (playing in the street or sticking their fingers in the sockets). My older kids are both full 4-yr scholarship winners in college and their younger siblings are straight-A students. Our kids also receive consistent praise from teachers, coaches and church leaders for their positive and respectful attitudes. Dr Dobson's advice works...especially if both you and your spouse use the techniques consistently.

I truly cannot fathom what book some of these other reviewers read - it surely can't be the same one. This book offered pretty practical information that I would consider to be traditional, maybe even old-fashioned...but it works! My parents did similar things with me and I have no emotional scars or voids - we have a fabulous relationship and I am a healthy, functional adult. Yes, in certain very specific cirumstances he does advocate spanking, but that's like any other book - you dont have to do it. If you are opposed to corporal punishment, then modify his suggestions to work for your family. I think this is a very good, very practical resource to help parents, and it has been grossly misrepresented and unfairly characterized by other reviewers.

I read the book with each child we had [ 4 times]. I found it practical and common sense. There are a lot of folks who buy into worldly philosophy and ignore the Creators values and means. In no way does the book advocate violence. Our children are now adults and are requesting copies now that the grandkids have come along.

I'm a mother of 4. when I had my first born, a friend of mine give me this book (in spanish) as a gift. That happened 19 years ago. It helped me to undestand a lot of things about my child caracter development an how to deal with it . It helped me to mature in my motherhood and with my other kids. Today that baby is a college student, secured, inteligent, lovely, and respectable person and in some way this book contributed in that process. I'm very thankful to my friend for this gift that still helping me with my baby boy who is 10 years old now..