The (New and Improved) Loving Dominant

I have read many books on "how to" for D/s. No book combines the physical and mental/emotional aspects of D/s so well. And for D/s, the importance of emotions and feelings cannot be overstressed. The comprehensive treatise on safety deals with psychological safety as well as phsyical safety - something that, while desperately needed, has been overlooked in most other attempts at this very difficult subject. Yes, BDSM is a difficult undertaking as it requires not only deep knowledge but even deeper caring and ethics. Knowing that your Dominant is concerned and knowledgable in, and for safety, will create a bond of trust. A big step for a lasting relationship! The section written BY a submissive is a stroke of genius for the purposes of providing the submissive POV. Imagine! a book that tries to teach the Dominant what a submissive sees and feels. Understanding the submissive mind is a powerful tool for a Dominant that truly cares.I would combine this book with Jay Wiseman's "S/M-101" as the foundation for a beginners' entry into Domination and submission. Seeing these two books on the shelf of a Domme will perk my interest in persuing a relationship. In closing: I would expect any "Loving Dominant" to have their submissive(s) read these two books.Sincerely:Tom

Mr. Warren is an extremely talented author and knowledgeable about his subject. This is one of the most informative and helpful books out there to date, an excellent source not only for the "old-timers" in the alternative lifestyle, but for those who are simply seeking knowledge and information in their quest to learn as well as to make informative decisions in their choices. He is a highly respected member of the lifestyle and most helpful to newcomers. "The Loving Dominant" is one of the definitive guidebooks. I highly recommend it, don't miss out!

I bought this book for my husband, a budding dominant. Thanks to John Warren, he is now a budding Loving Dominant. My husband had to fight me (a submissive) for reading time though, because I was continually amazed at how well Mr. Warren knew my own heart, someone he has never met! His expertise at illuminating the all-too-often 'dark' world of BDSM is refreshing - finally, a book that addresses the needs, wants, and desires of dominants while adeptly expressing the viewpoint of the submissive. I would recommend it to any dominant, regardless of experience. the insight into the submissive nature is amazing.

The Loving Dominant is not just for the novice and experienced dominant player. It is also for the submissives, masochists, and bottoms within the scene. This book is a valuable resource for those of us into submission and masochism. It allows us to look at BDSM from the top perspective and learn more about what we enjoy having done to us. This book delves into it all from knots, safer techniques, first-aid, various forms of play, consent, to submission written from the submissive point of view.Whether you are new or experienced, dominant or submissive, you will learn a ton from John Warren's superbly written book. And, if you are submissive and ever asked "How do I know if I am with an experienced dominant or with a safe player?" then look here. It can't answer it all, but it gives you a good look at how an experienced and safe dominant plays.I love the book and will recommend to anyone interested in BDSM.

This is the question John Warren asks in Chapter 2 of this book and if you're a Dominant, it's a very good question to ask yourself. This book is an excellent introduction to the 'kinky world' some of us live in from time to time. While there are numerous other excellent SM books on the market, John's book covers topics not normally covered in other "introductory SM books, like how to act at a play party, and taking memorable pictures of your own private scenes. Also included are sections on First Aid, "Stalking the Wild Submissive," (very important!) and ways to do scenes that are exciting both for the Dominant and the submissive.I felt the chapter that John's wife, Libby wrote (A Submissive Writes About Submission) gives an excellent insight for Dominants into what (at least for her) submission means and what it's about.This book's second edition is now available on Greenery Press and it's an excellent addition to any kinkster's library, whether they are Dom, sub, or switch.Also recommended: SM101 by Jay Wiseman; Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller & Molly Devon