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Paperback The Kindness Handbook: A Practical Companion Book

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ISBN13: 9781591797432

The Kindness Handbook: A Practical Companion

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A friend criticizes you. You grow impatient with someone you're trying to help. A cell phone user annoys you on a train. Would your first response to these situations be kindness? In The Kindness Handbook, Sharon Salzberg explores with insight and clarity how kindness for ourselves and others can be the quality we choose to steer our lives by.

From the foundation of this transformative practice and its entry point through you, to its daily...

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East meets West

Loving-kindness meditation is mentioned several times in my book Balanced Positive Psychology, along with brief descriptions of what it involves and how it is used. However, I recently spent some time reading two of Sharon Salzberg's books (Loving-Kindness and The Kindness Handbook), and it was time very well spent. I kept thinking that the books represented a very practical approach from a Buddhist perspective (the East) to what balanced positive psychology (the West) can be all about. Salzberg touches on everything from mindfulness to prosocial behavior to forgiveness to compassion to happiness to serenity to spirituality to balance and more. I was very impressed, and recommend both of these books highly.

An exceptional wonder

This is an amazing book. Drawing on everyday examples as well as scholarly research, Sharon Salzberg continues to provide a healing salve of kindness and compassion in realistic ways. This is not a book that aims to make us nice people in a me generation. It isn't even a book to make us feel good. I am a psychotherapist and have referred this book to many of my patients who are learning how to stay sober, heal from trauma, and begin again after divorce, among other life changing events. Through meditations that help us to encounter suffering with patience, tolerance, and clarity, we are again reminded of how we really can be present rather than run away from what hurts. Showing up for ourselves is compassionate enough because we can share this miracle with others. We all win.

Practical, no jargon or theory here

"For kindness to be more fully realized, it needs to be distinguished from being ineffectual or meek. It also needs to be infused with wisdom, supported by courage, and threaded with balance" -- Sharon Salzberg This is another relatively small book, with many small sections. Although the books has chapters on "The Foundation," "The Entry" (Kindness towards ourselves), "The Expression" (kindness toward others), and "Closing," There are dozens of small stories, verses, anecdotes, and short scriptural passages. One section is a self-quiz to measure yourself on the "self-compassion scale." Like other books we have looked at this, one focuses on loving-kindness, but this one barely touches on meditation. It concerns the application of loving-kindness in everyday life. The stories are wonderful; my favorite was one about an illegal immigrant, crossing into this country, who happened across a boy who, along with his mother, had just been in an auto accident. The mother had died in the crash, and the 9-year-old boy was alone out in the wild. The illegal immigrant stayed with the boy, comforting him, until help arrived the next morning. The man knew that by staying, he would be caught and deported, but stayed anyway, because the little stranger needed him. How many hopes and dreams would we be willing to give up to comfort a child? This is not one of those books that you can read cover-to-cover. A small bit goes a long way, and rushing through it would be counterproductive. I would suggest sitting it on the nightstand and reading a small section every night; this would take about a month and give you something to dwell on before sleep. Perhaps a quick re-read the next morning would make an excellent way to start the day. This book has little to no Buddhist theory or history, but that's OK. Learning the facts and ideas are useful in understanding the philosophy of Buddhism, but this book is really what it's all about. The sub-title of the book, "A Practical Companion," says it all. This simple, down-to-Earth book is all about the practical, proper, and realistic way to treat ourselves and each other.

Kindness Involves Mindfulness

"It takes boldness, even audacity, to step out of our habitual patterns and experiment with a quality like kindness--to work with it and see just how it might shift and open up our lives. This book is an invitation to do just that." - From The Kindness Handbook Many of the world's religions teach that kindness is a desired virtue, something to be practiced towards those we love--and those we don't. In her book The Kindness Handbook, author Sharon Salzberg shows us that kindness is much more than being nice or living altruistically. Kindness involves mindfulness--that present-moment awareness that accepts and allows whatever might be happening at the time, engendering intimacy with our surroundings. Yet, this doesn't disqualify protesting perceived injustice or taking action to alleviate suffering, but rather invites us to be fully engaged with clarity of mind and openness of heart towards everyone we encounter. Amid the pursuit of kindness, however, there is one person that often gets overlooked: ourselves. Salzberg maintains that we are often quite harsh with ourselves, more than with any other, participating in self-castigation and lack of faith towards our ability to succeed. But what are we to do in the face of physical limitation, illness, death and disaster? How do we cultivate kindness not only for all people and the Earth, but also for ourselves? What might kindness look like in the midst of poverty, relationship challenges, dashed hopes or criticism? The Kindness Handbook paints a gentle portrait of ways to meet each person and circumstance with loving kindness--an approach of ease, curiosity and permission that nourishes our spirit and leaves us emotionally fuller, rather than depleted. Providing a self-compassion test, thoughtful anecdotes, personal examples and the profound wisdom that arises from awareness, Salzberg creates a sacred space inviting healing, understanding, peace and joyfulness to all who will partake of the living water of kindness and dare to step out of cycles of reactivity. Here are but a few of the loving passages found in The Kindness Handbook: * "Compassion is the trembling or the quivering of the heart in response to suffering. Equanimity is a spacious stillness that can accept things as they are. The balance of compassion and equanimity allows us to care, and yet not get overwhelmed and unable to cope because of that caring." * "Instead of thinking that growth and understanding will come from doing battle with aspects of ourselves, or thinking they will come from enmity towards emotions, memories, and longings that we actually can't keep from arising, we discover that kindness and compassion for ourselves is the best and most healing trajectory for transformation." * "...painful times can be an opportunity to find out what really is important to us. Pain wears away superficial concerns, leaving us with a powerful urge for freedom, happiness and wholeness of being." * "We can explore other way
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