The Infinite Thread: Healing Relationships Beyond Loss

READING THE INFINITE THREAD BROUGHT A LOT OF THINGS TOGETHER FOR ME. I WAS ABLE TO APPLY IT TO THE LOSS OF A RELATIONSHIP IN MY LIFE. I THINK THE BOOK IS CLEAR AND WELL WRITTEN. ALEXANDRA MAKES THE IDEA OF COMMUNICATING INTERNALLY VERY REAL AND VERY POSSIBLE. THERE WERE AREAS THAT JUST CLICKED FOR ME. I AM GRATEFUL THAT SHE COULD EXPERIENCE THESE EVENTS AND PUT THEM SO BEATIFULLY IN TO WORDS TO SHARE WITH US.

When my parents died I was filled with a wide variety of feelings, from relief (that they were no longer suffering), to a deep sense of loss, to fear about where I would now find that support which only parents can provide, to a new sense of freedom. Often the conglomeration of feelings was like a whirlwind that swept me up. Although I didn't find a really helpful book at the time, I did discover that at least I was not alone. Many people I met reported similar experiences. Over the years, through friends, therapists and reading I came to a place of peace about life without my parents. But when this book came along, many years later, I was attracted to it immediately. This is a book that I would have loved to have had in my possession ten years earlier. I thought how wonderful it was that someone had written it. I have since discovered, in reading The Infinite Thread, that there were still areas of my parents' deaths that I had not resolved for myself, and the book really helped to reach back and come to a deeper understanding.This is one of those books that should be on everyone's shelf.

The Infinite Thread is a beautifully written and easy to read book by Alexandra Kennedy. There are many exercises in it to help in the grieving process. I first learned about the sanctuary from Alexandra's book, "Losing A Parent". My daughter died 6 years ago and I created a sanctuary for her and myself in my home. The first few years I cried mostly. Now, I still cry, but I use the sanctuary to talk to my daughter and meditate. The sanctuary has helped me continue my relationship with my daughter and has helped me learn and grow from the most difficult task of my life. The Infinite Thread has many more exercises to try and I look forward to using them. I highly recommend this to anyone. I have given several copies of the Infinite Thread to friends and family, who have recently lost a loved one.

This book is both inspirational and practical. It is a rare and insightful combination to find real answers and a broad perspective on a subject as infinite as loss. Ms Kennedy speaks from her heart of personal experiences and the exceptional healing of her students and clients. The losses range from those as ordinary as saying good-bye to a good friend, or losing a treasured object, to the agony of the death of a child or a parent with whom one has never reconciled. The techniques are ones we can do in our bedroom with the ordinary stuff of life like writing a letter or creating a sanctuary, but framed with an extraordinary wisdom and a depth of love that allows for a radical change of heart and the freedom from the paralysis of unresolved grief.

When my father was diagnosed with fatal brain tumors, I was pregnant, my sister and I were not talking to each other, my mother was spiraling in and out of a deep depression and I was dealing with many heavy issues around losing my dad. He and I had a rocky relationship and we had been having a hard time connecting for the prior 20 years. Alexandra's book helped me enormously to deal with many issues -- through his illnes, his dying, and after he was gone. Talking through my heart (a dimension she discusses in her book) gave me a huge break-through in my communications with my dad. In some magical way it allowed my *real* conversations with him to shift to a different, more peaceful and accepting level. Working with her exercises enabled my dad and I to come to a place of forgiveness, prior to his death, and after, that I couldn't have imagined possible. It's an excellent book for working with ANY unfinished grief. It's practical, easy to read, and offers hope and guidance to anyone dealing with losing a loved one or reeling from the effects of having lost a loved one in the past.