The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage

This book hit home 100%! So thankful for Al anon!!!

Slim, concise but full of all the advice and wisdom I so badly needed. As with all Al Anon literature/messages, you don't nevessarily need to be married to an alcoholic, just someone with abisive/unpredictable/addictive tendencies. And most importantly, the principals can be applied to anyone who is codependent and looking to change that.

This is a very helpful book for those in a marriage where one partner is an alcoholic.

**** This book is excellent for marriages when one of the partners is an alcoholic; it is also good for codependent marriages in general. Much of the book would apply to marriages where a partner is abusive, even if not alcoholic. The advice and illustrations are hands-on and useful. The book is about a hundred pages and very dated; however, the information is still valuable and well worth the price. I have my copy highlighted throughout. Here is a sample quote: "To see this situation realistically, she would have to understand how desperately the guilt-tormented alcoholic needs such weapons to bolster his own ego. When he uses these weapons to attack, it is not because he hates his wife but because he hates himself and needs to reassure himself that he is not all bad. He finds fault with the person nearest to him because it makes it a little easier for him to tolerate himself." This book is a useful support to the spouse of an alcoholic, reflecting the Al-Anon philosophy and general good common sense, which is sometimes overlooked by the partner in the throes of chaos generated by living with an alcoholic/abusive partner. Highly recommended. ****

This is one of my favorite books....I think it really helps keep the focus on me. I blamed the alcoholic for my problems for so many years...I find with this book it helps me to see and accept my part in the disease and I am finally able to work on it. I like some of the candid stories and I find that no matter where I am in recovery...relationships are hard, especially when I never knew what a healthy one was until now. This is great reading......and another important piece of conference approved literature for Al Anon recovery.