The Death of a Wife: Reflections for a Grieving Husband

Grief by Jerry Fagnani I write for those Who dwell in sacred hush, Kneeling on altars Of their own exile; Those who weep For the wildness in a gentle heart, And sing a song of longing For sun dappled paths of light. I sing for those Flying further than any dream can reach, Knowing that the rivers remember As do the desecrated shadows in the dark; Forlorn brothers, who, With wings of ancient wrath, Ride the raging storms of night With a love that can't forget. I walk with those Who embrace their ravages, And listen to the wind For a message from the seasons; Souls on a withered landscape And its long, long season of silence; Except for their hearts Which gently moan. A Kinder Bright: Poems of Praise and Remembrance

After I lost my wife, this book was one of the more helpful ones for me in dealing with my grief. Most books try to tell you how you should feel, or how you should feel ok about feeling. Whatever. This author never claims to have any clue about how the reader might be feeling. He just pours his own emotions onto the page - in poems, metaphors, however he can manage to express himself at the moment. For me, this was much more useful that the more directed help books. My emotions were often different than Robert's, but reading about his struggle made me feel less alone in my own.