The Dance of Anger / The Dance of Intimacy / The Dance of Deception

Love it! It helps to clarify what's been happening in my marriage. The Dance of Anger was suggested to me in the 80's but alas, I'm ready!

This compilation of 3 of Harriet Lerner's best known books into one volume was prepared especially for One Spirit. From the book's back cover: "The Dance of Anger explores how women learn to silence anger, vent it ineffectively, or deny it altogether - then show how to trace it to its source and use it to create profound change. With her trademark passion, humor, and clarity, Lerner helps us distinguish questions we needn't ask ("Do I have a right to be angry?") from those we should ("What am I really angry about?"); learn to change our behavior and respond to our loved ones "countermoves"; and more. In The Dance of Intimacy, Lerner examines relationships where closeness is challenged - by distance, intensity, or pain - to help us build our sense of self, be clear about needs and limits, and strike the "delicate balance between separateness and connectedness" that makes real intimacy possible. And, in The Dance of Deception, she offers a meditation on deceit and disclosure in every area of our lives - from family secrets to sex and selfhood - that's also a practical, compassionate guide to discaovering and living our own truths."