The Complete Idiot's Guide to Intimacy

This book really breaks intimacy down in a way that you can understand it enough to work at it without feeling overwhelmed. Dr. Coleman breaks it down into 4 areas: Thought Touch Togetherness Talk The author is very thorough and explains everything clearly so you can grasp it easily. I started working on the 4 areas and noticed an immeadiate improvement in the quality of my relationship with my wife. We were having better conversations and spending more quality time together even though our hectic work life and raising a toddler has limited our time. We were connecting more at times that we had previously not realized as oppurtunities to connect. I strongly recommend getting this book, it is obviously for romantic relationships, but it is also for non-romantic relationships as well. Get this book!!!

My husband and I have never read a relationship book or anything of the sort before so I can't exactly compare this book to others. I gave it five stars because it seems like a perfect book to start with..... What I can say about it however is that so far it's been a very comfortable book. I'm not sure what I was expecting, but this def. suprised me. I suppose I was expecting a book that was going to tell us that good sex was the answer to relationship woes or something as "simple" as that. But it doesn't........ This book is good to read as a couple. It doesn't make either person feel like they are to blame for anything even though it makes it very clear that if you have an issue you need to work on it. That's why I say the book is comfortable.... it doesn't seem condescending to any person in the relationship so you don't feel like you want to slam the book shut and put it back on the shelf because it's pointing a finger at you. Which was something I was kind of scared my husband would take a relationship book to mean. It's a good book to read together and makes it easy to say "hey, let's try to do that and see what happens". I would suggest it.

I agree with the previous reader, there is a lot of helpful information in this book. It's a very easy to read (and follow) book. Among the topics written about in the book are: What intimacy means to women compared to men; Roadblocks to intimacy; When it looks like intimacy, but it isn't; Why people choose the wrong person to be intimate with; How one person can spark intimacy for both of you; How our "thinking style" affects intimacy; How to think intimate thoughts during an argument; Intimate self-disclosure the easy way; easy talks for cozy intimacy; Sex and intimacy; "Hot" intimacy; Overcoming obstacles to sexual intimacy; How stress affects intimacy; Intimacy after the affair; And much, much more. Even if you think there are no problems in your relationship, this book is worth a look, you never know it might be helpful anyway. Who can't use a little help now and again? No relationship is perfect.

This book truly does have something for everyone. He discusses the four pathways to intimacy, which really make you stop and think. How many of us think that Love and Intimacy are the same thing? You really can't have one without the other. I am between relationships and this book would be helpful to those currently in or out of a relationship, single or coupled. The quizzes help you to get to the heart of your issues and maybe help you figure out why your previous relationships are over. Every page has helpful information. You can't go wrong with this book.

This book really made me stop and think about the things that were/are wrong in my marriage. The quizes put it right out there, as long as you are honest with your answers. Too bad there wasn't a book like this 20 years ago! The tips aren't hard to follow, but sure make a world of difference! It's not the type of book that you have to read from cover to cover, you can just skip around if that's your style and then keep it handy, for when it is needed. Dr. Coleman does a great job with his books and you should look into them if needed!