Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives

Dr. Laura holds back no punches in this book!! Straight forward and hard hitting!! It sets you straight, so you can move forward. My Mom gave this book to each of her girls after hearing Dr. Laura on talk radio. Now as an adult I have come across some young women who really need to hear her words!!

Here are the first three of the ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives, according to Dr. Laura: 1) they seek their identity in stupid attachments, 2) are panicky to pour themselves into courtship with a lunkhead who will accept them, and 3) suffer stupid devotion for the sake of a wretch. I've been in the "people business" for 20 years, and I'm convinced that Dr. Laura's right. I used to wince at her brutal approach to truth, but no more; she's not just talking to ONE person on the other end of the line. Dr. Laura is skilled at discerning the exact bad decisions that have lead to a particular problem, then using that example to warn another half-million listeners to avoid this same pitfall. That's what she does in this book. She catalogues 10 of most the dangerous - and stupid - decisions women make and explains how to avoid these. Any 10-year-old girl can understand these principles, but these things need to be said aloud. It's not a new book, but it's timeless truth.

You have to ask yourself one question. Why do authors who are divorced write all the marriage and self-help books? Well in five words: "They learned from the experience." If you want advice from a woman who has "been there/done that" then Dr. Laura is a good source of wisdom. She has fallen, picked herself up and moved on. Girlfriend, this is one woman who isn't going to take it anymore. She looks at the facts, pushes aside the romantic ideals and makes you face the reality of your situation. Personally, I kinda like her "in your face truth attitude." It is refreshing to finally hear what no one else will tell you. Dr. Laura's hope is that people will learn to live more balanced lives. She takes a look at our unrealistic drives and primal needs. She says the "ultimate stupidity" is withholding from yourself the respect you deserve. She shows how women often tolerate obnoxious male behaviors in order to avoid loneliness, self-assertiveness, and self-sufficiency. The lovely contents include chapters on Attachment, Courtship, Devotion, Passion, Cohabitation, Expectations, Conception, Subjugation, Helplessness and Forgiving. While most of this book seems to be for women who are dating, every woman should read this book. "It is your job as a woman, as a person, to become as fully realized as you can by having dreams, forging a purpose, building an identity, having courage, and making commitments to things outside of yourself. In so doing, you take a more active role in the quality of your own life so that other people-friends, spouses, children-share in your growth rather than become responsible for it. You'll feel super. And you'll feel really womanly-as opposed to babyish or girlish-perhaps for the first time." ~Dr. Laura She answers the following questions: Why hasn't he called? (Short Answer: Are you sure you want him to?) Do you really want to be with someone who is not giving you back what you're giving? Are you a volunteer hostage? How do I teach a man to respect me? What is true Intimacy? What is sexual addiction? Should you hang in there or leave? What is the difference between Sexual Passion and Mature Love? Who is really responsible for birth control? Even Dr. Laura is willing to admit there is no life without pain. "The experience and the survival of pain are often the price of growth." What if you can bypass some of this pain? Would that be worth the price of this book? YES! Ok, I admit, I borrowed this from my mother. ;) Now she will have to read the highlighted version. ~The Rebecca Review