Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives

This book changed my life in some extremely positive ways. It's written by a brilliant psychologist. This is where the book differs from others I've read. He goes into the psychological aspects of why gay men bahave the way they do and why people react the way they do. His book taught me that I too was expressing homophobia towards myself and others with things I'd say and do. His book literally changed my entire outlook on my life and set me on the path of actually being able to be happy with who I am and what I've accomplished. I'd recommend this book to anyone....because you're never too young or old to start improving your life!!

This is an interesting, engaging and reader friendly book that for the most part stays away from psychobabble and preachiness. He illustrates how the stunted emotional/psychological development of gay men is a result of our homophobic culture. The chapter on sexual compulsions/additions is also one of the best I've ever read. At times the book does feel a little self-congradulatory and also a promotion for imago therapy but dont let that stop you from reading it. It is well worth the money and has should be read by all gay men, single or partnered of any age.

A must read for every gay man at any stage of his life. If you're just coming out, this will give you some strength and ideas how to avoid the pitfalls that are headed your way. If you've been out a while and are tired, bitter and conflicted about choices you've made, Joe gives examples and ideas about how to put your emotions in the correct context. It helped me get clear on things that I'd been avoiding in my own life. Now I'm off to therapy!

Since coming out to myself and to others, I have read numerous books about different aspects of affirming myself as a gay man. At last, Joe Kort has put it all together and more. He integrates so many aspects of what I, as a gay man, need to do to fully reach my potential. And he illustrates those steps so well with concrete examples. While most of the lessons are geared to gay men, many apply to all men. I also was able to pat myself on the back for the steps that I have taken and see more clearly where I have more to do. Thanks, Joe.

I stumbled upon to this book on a display table on gay literature at a local book store. Yes! The picture of the cute author on the cover was the very first thing that caught my eye. Sorry, guys--he's married! However, when I gleamed through the table of contents and read the first chapter--I could not put it down! I have read enough gay, self-help psychology books to know this is the best of all. Kort is a trained psychotherapist, who offers his personal experiences and those of his clients to clarify why we as gay men "act out" and instructs us how to empower ourselves to changes our negative behavior(s) and attitude(s)--no matter how entrenched we they think they are. I was not until I read this book that I realized that I harbored some degree of internalized homophobia or heterosexism. According to the author there are some thought patterns and actions are very subtle and exists on a subconscious level, e.g. being non-commital in relationships, gay men's obession with youth and the perfect male physique over other qualities in our search for the perfect boyfriend, catty, hurtful insults gay men say to and about each other, etc. I highly recommend this book. It's written in a clear, direct, understandable style--not leaden with heavy obtuse, psycho-babble. I assure you it will set you in the right path towards developing a healthier, happier perspective on life.