Technical Virgin: How Far Is Too Far?

All the people below me rating this book one star are probably in denial, or are athiest. The book tells it how it really is. Just me as a guy and living life for 24 years knows that 9 out of ten guys only want sex. But girls are just as bad these days. The world is in the end times and purity becomes less and less practiced.Morality, dginity, and self respect are at an all time low. Teens love to rebel, and they love to downplay. Learning the hard way is the only way now. Parents are too busy working to pay the bills to sit and talk to there kids about the downside of pre marital sex and pregnancy. The only bad thing about this book is that is doesn't emphasize on the fact that girls are just as bad as guys. That's not an opinion;trust me, I have lived the fast lane life and women are just as fast-no matter the age. I wish I would have wrote this, maybe then it would be a brutal honesty classic, without the bible verses that piss everyone off.

This is one book you must have in your personal library if you work with female youth! This book reviews what you already know & updates you on current happenings, but it also gives a new persepctive on some things I had never even considered. Like "Female Porn"!! Yes, us females find some types of movies to be "eye candy" for us. We end up having unrealistic expectations for our "guys" to be like the chic flics we so dearly enjoy watching. Get the book and read it. I had not realized all us females have fallen into this trap, not just my youth I minister to. I bought this for some of my youth, and other youth workers I know. Recommeneded it on my website too for other youth leaders to check out! This book is a must!

Technical Virgin by Hayley DiMarco is another of her outstanding books that pull no punches and have totally plain talk and facts about sex which teenage girls need to know. The statistics of STDs in young teens is appalling, and DiMarco tells the straight facts about how "just messing around but not going all the way" can also cause a person to get sexually transmitted diseases, depression, and other severe health and psychological problems, in addition to the risk of pregnancy. The book is written for Christian girls and their parents but would be beneficial to all teens, male or female, to know the facts. As unbelievable as it seems to parents and older generations, a large percentage of girls from early teens are engaged in all types of sexual activity, even when they have pledged abstinance, because to these young people nothing but intercourse is considered sex. Parents, this is a MUST READ with your daughter.

In a culture where a sitting president denies sexual relations since he didn't 'participate' and MTV gives ample air time to teens in The Real World hooking up just for fun, it's no wonder that teen girls are defining virginity as one consumating act and green lighting everything else. The book "Technical Virgin" is a book I wish was never published because I wish it wasn't needed. But it is needed. My little niece is 14 years old and wears a purity ring on her finger, but my sister caught her 'fooling around' with her 16 year old study partner. Talk about upheaval in that family. As someone familiar with Hayley DiMarco (I became impressed with her at Women of Faith a couple years back) I promptly rushed this book into my niece's hands. The great thing about this book is that it's written for the teenage girl, not the parent. Too many books are out there supposedly for youth that appease the sensibilities of the parent but don't connect with the teen, but this book was read cover to cover by my niece in less than two days. I personally had the same experience with DiMarco's book "Marriable." "Technical Virgin" is a needed book that hits the target audience square between the eyes. It treats the teen as a decision maker. Because as my sister found out, teens can make decisions counter to what's being taught at church and at home and this is a persuasive book written with that in mind.

"Technical Virgin: How Far Is Too Far" by Hayley DiMarco is a refreshing entry into the world of Christian purity books. It offers a frank and blunt evaluation of the current trend of teens pledging abstinence from sex and protecting their virginity, but then narrowly defining what virginity is (only intercourse.) In other words, many teens that have made the pledge are participating in sexual activities that allow them to remain 'technically' a virgin. Ms. DiMarco calls teen girls out on the subject. The interior of the book is a beautiful and well conceived design, on thick glossy paper and printed in full-color similar to her book on immodesty. Throughout the book, the publisher has placed full page images of teen girls with their boyfriends in 'almost compromising' situations. This is grandly effective in my humble opinion as the images work as visual flash cards for the female reader. Almost as if to say, if you start to find yourself in any of these situations...BEWARE. You're putting your purity at risk! As a youth leader at a large church and a fan of Ms. DiMarco's other books, the effective visual design and straight-forward writing style did not surprise me in the least. What did shock me were some of the statistics she reported on the instances of STDs among those that have signed abstinence pledges and those that haven't. They were identical! Instead of using scripture alone to draw a line, Ms. DiMarco piles on statistics about teen depression, escalating sexual behavior, and society's propensity to tell young girls to be like "one of the guys", i.e. that oral sex and other activities are no big deal. As someone that works with youth as a ministry and profession, her methods are very effective. In a sea of purity books waxing poetic about sex or leaving details to the imagination (and providing pledge loopholes) "Technical Virgin" offers a much needed book for teen girls at risk. And if your girls are wearing a True Love Waits ring, statistics show they're more at risk than you might think. As a clarification: this book is written for teen girls dating or likely to date. If you homeschool your girls and know their whereabouts constantly and don't allow them to date, some of the content of this book might be unsettling for you to talk through and wholly unnecessary. Though I might recommend it to those girls if they were going off to college. Unfortunately yet understandably, this book is not for teen boys. Hopefully a similar book will be released for teen guys as well.