Surviving Betrayal: Hope and Help for Women Whose Partners Have Been Unfaithful * 365 Daily Meditations

This book was well written by women who have shared the trauma of betrayal. The words bring comfort and clarification for some of the emotions that follow being involved with a sex addict. It's comforting to know others have gone through the same stages and that we aren't imagining it (we are not insane). Sorrow, anger, confusion and[[ASIN:1576830284 False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction] guilt can be overwhelming and its okay to feel this way. Most importantly there is hope and help in understanding we can move on and by helping ourselves we can help others. Unfortunately in sexual addiction most of the focus is on the addict not the partner who is also suffering and confused, this book was very enlightening, I hope there is more to follow.

This book is a must-have for any woman whose life has been shattered by betrayal. My husband and I prided ourselves on our continued love and lust after 25 years of marriage; you can imagine how devastated I was to learn that he was involved in an affair. May's book of meditations is somewhat like 12-step program literature--it puts the wounded partner's focus back on herself to promote healing. It will validate all the irrational, sick thoughts that betrayal causes, and provide some comfort that this too shall pass. Although we are working to repair our marriage, I still read this book everyday, because it could be tomorrow that it happens again; what I will see is that I cannot control what anyone else does, just that it's not my fault that someone else is soul sick. Do not be put off by the mention of "God;" just as in 12 step programs, this could be anything that provides you strength: Al-Anon meetings (go to them--they are a lifesaver), religion, or even the sunrise. I found this book indispensible. When my copy gets old, I hope to get another one.

I would not have made it without this book. After 23 years of marriage, the revelation of infidelity almost killed me. No matter what I was feeling or thinking on any given day, I could find hope that I would make it. I did. And this book has been my "bible".

The aim of this book is not to solve your partner's betrayal but to validate and offer solace for those caught in it's web. It's a comfort book and I highly recommend it -especially during the early, crazy days when your life is spinning out of control and your mind is on overdrive. I carried it around with me and whenever I had a meltdown, I found reassurance that my new, unfamiliar (terrifying) emotions and thoughts were normal. I found the meditations calming and surely, this author has been there, done that. This book does not dispense advice but correctly places the focus on the betrayed's healing.

Surviving Betrayal brings hope to the heart of any woman whose husband is addicted to sex, pornography or any other form of sexual betrayal. The author shares her story in the introduction and throughout the meditations. Somehow, in reading about her journey, it becomes clear that betrayal can truly be survived. The meditations not only offer hope, but practical tools for surviving each day, each relapse, each broken promise. I commend the courage of the woman who wrote this book.