The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You

I have read and browsed quite a few self-help books for single women trying to find mr. right. After hearing about this book from a friend, I browsed it a bit at a bookstore and decided to buy it. I read it over a few days and found that while I didn't agree with everything, I think it's a refreshing way to look at dating and relationships. The biggest lesson I've learned is that I essentially teach men how to treat me. I have been following some of her tips and have found many of the things she says to be true. This books doesn't just stop once you have found that person but it also has plenty of information on how to stay happy in your relationship and deciding whether or not you need to leave it. Most of her suggestions seem like common sense but may take a little bit of practice to follow. I would recommend this book to all single women who have problems finding a relationship or keeping one.

I opened the first page of this book and the first paragraph shocked me. "Dishonoring your desire to get married is a way of protecting yourself from disappointment and trying to avoid becoming dependent....Ultimately, however, such denial and control will stand between you and finding the love you crave. Surrender to your desire to be married and you give that desire the chance to become a reality" This was me! I ALWAYS said I didn't want to get married, I even had a list of over 100 reasons not to get married that I would actually cite on my dates! I thought guys liked women that were independent and didn't want to "trap" them into getting married. I couldn't understand why no one I dated wanted to marry me. At least I could say "no" I reasoned with myself, I just wanted them to ask. This book helped me get real with what was really going on with me and gave me the courage to open my heart to the truth. The first guy I tried these techniques on, it was hard. Letting him carry my bag when he offered instead of insisting "I can do it" Letting him pay for everything instead of making sure things were even. All of these things lead him into feeling like a man, and to my surprise, made me feel like a valued woman. After 7 months of dating, we just got engaged and will be married in the Spring. We have a great relationship. More than I ever dreamt possible. I believe that this book made the difference. READ IT!

I followed the principles in Surrendered Single and it helped me to open my eyes and heart to the best man I could have imagined. We'll be getting married in 5 months. If people tell you that you are a catch, but wonder why you haven't "found the right person", this book is for you. If you think of yourself as confident and competent in other areas, but are afraid of disappointment in love, you MUST read this book. Great practical, sensible advice with lots of entertaining stories about real single women like me and you.

Laura Doyle is my hero. She showed me great ways to manage the anxiety that I had about dating. Now, I am more relaxed and actually enjoy going on dates. I used to try to control everything about a date--only I didn't know that I was doing it. Now, I realize how men would get turned off if I called or asked when I would see him again. Now, I simply don't! With Doyle's help I have turned my life around. I focus on myself, and voila, men are calling. I go on blind dates, double dates, you name it. Most importantly, I can tell who the good guys are. I am so thrilled!

Laura Doyle has such an amazing, gentle and honest way to help you along the road of dating blissfully. Since I started to follow the surrendered single way of dating I am attracting a much higher quality of man. I have learned that I can still be a strong independent woman, while being feminine and adored by a man at the same time.While it is a growing process, sometimes one that is uncomfortable. I am learning so much about myself and what I want in a relationship. I am learning to let men treat me like a real lady and I am not settling for any less than I deserve. I have also learned that things are not always what they appear to be so if I think a man is half way decent I will give him a chance to take me out. I have been pleasantly surprised now that I have learned to put away my "check list" in what I want in a man. I actually enjoy dating now. Sometimes it is still uncomfortable but the book has given me so many new tools to use to help me along the way. I recommend Laura's books to all woman I know, married and single.