Staying Together: When an Affair Pulls You Apart

Excellent and comprehensive. Explored all issues related to infidelity with rational ways to deal/think about them. Very helpful, and even encouraging when feeling like things were hopeless. "We" are currently doing well as we work through this heartbreaking experience.

I have read a ton of books on affairs and this one has been the most comprehensive and clear about pulling it all together (examination of individual and relationship factors, plus process for recovery as a couple). It has been a huge relief to find this book after many months of frustration and reading other books that contain information on certain aspects of affairs and recovery but don't pull all of it together into one helpful, cohesive format.

I heard about this book while listening to a Christian Radio program (Family Life Today). I was so impressed with the interview of the author that I ordered the book for my wife's Christian counseling practice. This is a good book for anyone, Christians and non-Christians alike, professional counselors, ministers, and the general population. It is an excellent resource book with great spiritual and secular insights. I recommend it for married and non-married persons. It is now a part to the business library and when be checked out by many people.

I purchased this book in response to an affair. I was the "spouse in the dark". I used this book as a baseline to help recover from the devastation. Dr. Judah wrote this book using a combination of clinical review and religious belief. As explained in other reviews Dr. Judah uses the example of climbing a mountain, which is a good comparison to recovering from an affair. I believe that without having purchased this book, that recovery may have been impossible. This book is an excellent blue print for couples who wish to stay together and rebuild their relationship / marriage. In a word -Thanks- Mike.

Stephen Judah offers sincere, easy to understand, practical advice for both partners to lean on in handling the disclosure of an affair. I went to the library to find resources to help me understand my confusion and pain when my husband's affair was revealed to me. I came home with 7 books. Only "Staying Together" made sense to me. He clearly defined my hurt and expressed my outrage in words that helped me take the edge off. He led me to understand the grief and process of steps that many, many couples have been through with rewarding results. The best feeling I came away with after reading Staying Together is that it is worth the journey to heal, to stay in the life the two of you have built together, to eventually be in a more fulfilling partnership. I have only read it twice, but am starting it again. There is so much to glean from each chapter. Thank you, Dr. Judah.