Spanking, Why, When, How?

This book is great to understand the proper and loving technique of spanking. It was helpful as we raised our 2 boys (now 27 and 21) who both solidly believe in spanking themselves. Roy has well said that "Love without discipline produces spoiled children. Discipline without love breaks their spirit." And creates anger and frustration, I would add. I have read the long tirade against Mr. Lessin and his book, calling it 'kiddie torture' and even sexaul abuse of all things. This is sensationalism at its worst and unimaginable error. Let's get a grip on reality. Until perhaps 5 decades ago the vast majority of the US, yes even the world, used spanking as a core discipline for children. Are the evils that hurt children and teenagers reducing or increasing? Think of drug abuse, alcoholism, teenage pregnancy, teenage violence and teenage suicide. Obviously they are running in epidemic proportions chiefly because we have lost our compass. Now let's compare a teen addicted to drugs or giving birth at age 14 with no father in sight and ask - what hurts more? A spanking or the incredible personal tragedies we witness every day? Proper training and discipline starts when they are toddlers. The Bible tells us, "He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly" Prov 13:24 (NKJV) In his book, Roy Lessin tells us the proper way to spank - a loving way that corrects but doesn't damage. Spanking can be done in anger and incorrectly - of that there is no doubt. But not to correct your child when they are young means you hate them - not love them. Other reviews say that Roy's admonition to spank to achieve repentence does not work. Again God weighs in on this argument, "Blows that hurt cleanse away evil, As [do] stripes the inner depths of the heart. Prov 20:30 (NKJV) God says that physical pain can bring about a heart change - but this only from a loving parent. We wanted our kids to grow up as well adjusted responsible adults who would obey us, obey the law and finally obey God. They did! A disciplined child is a safe child who, when the parent yells "stop!" immediately heed the warning. More than one child has been saved from a busy street because they obeyed. I am well aware how far our society has drifted from these simple principles and how we wish to use our own wisdom and disdain our Maker as if we willed ourselves into existence. "Time Out" is a popular method (man's wisdom to avoid the real conflict) that causes more anger and frustration in both parent and child than spanking ever could. Spanking is quick, allows the parent to forgive and the child to repent. Time outs are so drawn out that neither parent not child remembers why it all started in the first place. (Time Out is a form of imprisonment, mild to be sure but the same idea. Did you realize that God never recommends prison as a punishment for adults or children? Ask yourself how our prison system works in rehabilitating behavior) If you find yo

If you do not believe in loving, Bible based discipline, this book is not for you. On the other hand, if you love the Lord and want to have a book that uses the Bible as it's sole basis for discipline, and not the "wisdom" *ahem* of the day, you'll love it. Every Christian couple planning to rear a family should have a copy. It does not promote any sort of "child abuse". The book also will save many poor children from the evil, moronic travesty of a time out chair. Sad though, about all those who think a spank is abuse, I pity them and their children. Sheri Lindquist Mother of FIVE boys who get spanked

Ok, today this book will not recieve popular reviews. In the last 50 years, we have become a liberal, secular, "enlightened" (yea right) society. Discipline can be abuse but it does NOT have to be. I think a properly applied spanking is effective. I also FULLY agree that a hand is a lousy item to spank with as it causes conufsion... I could go on and on. This book is in desperate demand in this time. God Bless the brave and TRULY enlightened soul that wrote it. In Christ, William

My husband and I are parents of 3 girls ages 6, 8, and 9. Our children had never had an old fashioned bare bottomed spanking. Mr. Lessin's book is an excellent guide to discipline. It has helped our family greatly. We were beginning to have some problems with our oldest girls not wanting to do their chores. Someone suggested that we read Roy Lessin's book on spanking. At first I was skeptical, but when I read the book, it became clear to my husband and I that we needed to give it a try. We sat the children down and talked to them. They understood that if they continued to disobey us and not get their chores done, their Dad or I would pull down their pants and panties and give them a spanking. For the next 2 or 3 weeks the girls seemed to be doing quite well. I think the oldest was trying to test us to see if we were serious or not. She did not believe that her Dad or I would really pull down her pants and panties and spank her. Her Dad made a believer out of her one after noon when the 3 girls were told to get their chores done, and they went in Tara's room to watch tv instead. My husband got a paddle and with each girl, he pulled down her pants and panties, put her across his knee, and gave each one about 9 licks with the paddle. They certainly cried. But since October, we haven't had any problem getting our 3 girls to do their chores. I would highly recommend this bood to other parents. It works wonders.

THis book is marvelous.I have two children, 17 (g) and 6 (b). Several years ago, I decided to try spankings for extreme cases such as lying or direct disobedience, but I felt that my 16 year old was too old. Sarah (16) was wild and disrespectfull. When I read this book, I realized that instead of being ashamed of the occasional spankings I gave my 6 year old, I should extend it to my 16 year old. One night, after breaking grounding to go out with her boyfriend and being disrespectful when caught, I made her drop her pants, bend over a chair, and I gave her 10 hard smacks with a belt. She cried like heck and I wondered if I had been right, but her behavior changed drastically. In the past year I have spanked her once more, and I would not hesitate to use it again. She doesnt like it, but she respects me for it and minds much better. Furthermore, after using this book's methods on my 6 year old for 2 years now, I am not having the same problems with him as I did his sister at that age. Spankings should be rare and controlled, but they are a very good thing. Buy this book.