Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams

I was pleasantly surprised to find that "Soulmates" is not New Age pablum, but a delightful mixture of solid psychology and ... and what? Warm mysticism? Course in Miracles wisdom? Whatever the second part, the first part, solid psychology, is undeniable, and the author's wit, honesty, modesty and self-disclosure make the book a great read. Believe it or not, it may even help you find (or create) a soulmate.

Wonderful, wonderful book!!!! It provided me the insights and tools that I needed to recognize my future soulmate. I am now involved in a fabulous relationship that probably would never have evolved without the help and guidance that I gained from this book. I've since ordered copies for my two best friends who, like me, have struggled with relationships in the past.

Miller dispels the myths and false beliefs about soul mates. Her approach is practical yet enlightening, comprehensive and heartening in the way she gently leads you to transcend your ego demands and find the relationship of your highest dreams. If you've ever been curious about soul mates, read it.

That's the question I want to ask this wonderful guidebook to soulmate relationships! Soulmates answers so many important questions about the real nature of fulfilling partnerships. It is easy to read, and filled with true-life examples of the principles that it teaches. Each chapter ends with a clear summary of its most valuable points. As a psychotherapist, I have recommended Soulmates to many of my clients, who have also found it to be an extremely valuable guide to a complex subject.

A CAUTIONARY TALE: PLEASE READ THE BOOK BEFORE YOU COMMENTDear "Reader from Los Angeles", I think you'll feel a lot better about my research if you actually DO read Soulmates, and I know you'll be relieved to learn that the material to which you object does NOT appear in it. Nor did this material appear in an early raw manuscript of the book that you purportedly read sometime ago. I will quote for you here in its entirety the only passage I actually used based upon my research interviews that you referred to. (The woman to whom you refer is called "Carmen," and your husband - the man Carmen called "Joseph" in an early manuscript of the book - is referred to as "Adam.")SECOND CHANCES (Excerpt from: SOULMATES: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams, pp. 99-100.) "I am convinced that we can have soulmate relationships with a number of different people. The loss of one ideal partner doesn't mean that we cannot have the wonderful relationship our soul desires - it just means that we can't have it with him or her. For example, here's what my friend Carmen's guide replied when she asked if a man who interested her was her soulmate: 'You want to know if Adam is "The One". I say he is a total possibility. But there are other men around who could join you on your path of holiness. You are nesting, and various holy friends who are, so to speak, at your level, will approach you. No matter who you choose, or who takes you as a partner, you both will be joyous in the same measure.' "'Carmen' shared her experiments with guidance with me several years ago as they were unfolding. I felt - indeed, I still feel - that there was a lot of wisdom in some of the responses she received in meditation. There is nothing in my notes that recalls Carmen's guide ever saying that Adam was her 'one and only,' but simply that he was a good man who shared her values and interests, and who might make a good partner for her if he chose to do so." [End of Excerpt] As events continued to unfold, it became apparent that Adam had not chosen to consider Carmen as a romantic partner, and, at her guide's urging, she did begin a relationship with someone else. Since nothing had come of Carmen's interest in Adam, I decided not to include the material related to her inner process in the book, except for the excerpt above. In retrospect, it does seem like a shame that Carmen decided to share her meditations regarding Adam with him, and that he then decided to share them with you. I can understand that it would be upsetting to think other people were being led to believe that your husband was "meant for" someone else. However, if you do decide to read Soulmates, you'll see that I argue vigorously against the idea that each of us has only one ideal mate, or that anyone is intended for some specific individual by God, or fate, or whatever. It is my belief that these are matters of individual choice, and since you and the man I've called "Adam" have cho