Shudda, Cudda, Wudda: Affirmations to Cope with Self-Doubt

Daily readings of affirmations keep it from being overwhelming. Very much to the point of other words and ways to be in touch with true feelings. You know when it's ok to feel in a more realistic way with each day's subject.

A. J. Chevalier, Ph.D., like many of us, was hassled by inner voices telling her what she should have done, could have done, or would have done if she were a better person. Chevalier, however, chose to do something to quiet those voices. In Shudda, Cudda, Wudda, she shares the affirmations she uses on a daily basis to live without guilt and worry. Shudda is one who lets us know where we fail, heaping on the guilt for our shortcomings. Cudda keeps up a refrain of "what if," keeping us in a constant state of worry. Wudda prefers to suffer and eschews responsibility, maintaining that everything is always the fault of someone or something else. The three of them conspire to "inflict self-doubt and indecision" upon all that we do. Chevalier found help from another voice, that of Ima WiseOne. She deflects the others, providing only love and encouragement. With her help, the doubts can be changed to "New Thoughts," which are affirming and empowering. For example, when Chevalier worries about whether other people are being treated fairly and what she should do, Shudda says "it is not your job to decide who is right and who is wrong." Cudda says "it is hopeless to try to change people. Look at how many other people have tried and failed. Some of them are dead." Wudda says "it is impossible to help others free themselves. What makes you think you are able to do such a thing?" The WiseOne points out that "standing up for unfair treatment often means some folks won't like you or what you say." Chevalier's New Thought is: "I choose right action based on principles important to me." Each day of the year has a similar worry, with the Shudda, Cudda, Wudda dialogue rebutted by the WiseOne to yield a New Thought. Additionally, each month starts with an adage, such as "Excuses are only useful to help explain why I didn't do what was important for me to do. They never help me reach a goal." Chevalier, a therapist, specializes in recovery issues. She has maintained a private practice for 20 years, as well as teaching at the university level in the States and abroad. Shudda, Cudda, Wudda, her second book, will help readers overcome the self-doubts making them miserable and enable them to fill their lives instead with joy, peace, and purpose.