Sex for Christians: The Limits and Liberties of Sexual Living

Lauren Winner reccomeded reading this book for Christians. Core message in this book is biblical, which doesn't change with culture generation to generation.

If the utterly clique, tired, and EMPTY "Christian" modern teachings on sex that you usually hear has left you wanting, this book is for you. If you're looking to justify what you've already decided to believe...well then...this book, along with every book in existence, is not for you. This book cuts through all the moralism and legalism that sexually insecure Christians spew and gets straight to the heart of matters.

This is THE best book I've ever read on the subject. Smedes presents a biblically sound view of sex and in so doing allows Christ to bring joy and freedom to our whole person.

I found this book really made me take a second look at my views of what the Bible actually says and does not say about our sexuality. I have been very afraid of looking at this issue, as I suppose most are, because of a lot of tradition that has arisen around christian dating and exceptable christian physical ethics which are not stated in the Bible. It has been truely educational to see that someone has used godly wisdom to discern where the Bible does not speak. It asks the questions everyone has asked and brings to light what many born again christian's struggle to find answers for. He supports the Bible fully where it speaks against immorality but encourages thought where the Bible does not and christian tradition has stepped in. Although there are some parts that do not need alot of thought about whether it is wrong or not, such as the morality of transexualism (clearly wrong) which he covers and stands biblically. I think that I, along with many other christian's, have found sexuality to be a burden, though it is God given, instead of looking at it through the Creator's eyes. I encourage anyone to read this book atleast to reasses what they believe and why. Smedes does not encourage us, like most to cut out a part of our redeemed being which many hope to use once they are married. Christian's need to think and think hard.

Smede looks at issues of sexuality intelligently and often (thankfully) rejects the knee-jerk conventional wisdom of the Christian community on issues such as petting and transexualism. Non-Christians may not understand where he's coming from and many Christians may struggle because Smede's demands thoughtful analysis of one's beliefs on the issues. A bit professorial in tone (he is an academic) but very liberating.