Sex Detox: Recharge Desire. Revitalize Intimacy. Rejuvenate Your Love Life.

Wish I had bought this book long ago. It has changed our lives for the better.

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., is the hottest, hippest sex expert of our time, he frequently works with couples to address issues that are common in the bedroom. Kerner has made frequent appearances on the Today Show, radio broadcasts, and on the pages of Cosmo, Redbook, Maxim, and Men's Health, he also dishes out dating advice for LifetimeTV.com. He is also the cohost of the series Love on the Rocks on the Discovery Health Channel and is the author of She Comes First, He Comes Next, and Be Honest -- You're Not That Into Him Either. Kerner is certified to counsel patients by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and has a Diploma in Sex Therapy from the American Board of Sexology. He is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, The International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health, and The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSIS). Kerner is a graduate of Brandeis University, and also holds advanced degrees from New York University, and The American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. Kerner is a Thomas J. Watson Fellow and a recipient of the Erwin J. Haberle Award in Clinical Sexology. He currently resides with his wife Lisa Rubisch, in NY City were he was born and raised. Together they have two sons, Owen and Beckett, and a Jack Russell Terrier named Houdini. I was l so looking forward to receiving this book, I could hardly wait. When it finally arrived I spent an entire evening browsing the selections available: Getting Started Doing without/The Science of the Detox/It's All in The Mind? Learning How to Read Your Love Map The Couple's Detox Couples Preparing for the Detox/ Modules 1-6/ Couples Rejuvenation The Singles Detox Background to the Singles Detox/ Modules 1-6/ Singles Rejuvenation Next I checked out several reviews by others to try and get an accurate picture. You see I am not part of a newly married couple and hoped to get a book I could read through together in bed with my other half that would give us some new ideas to spice up our love life. We are neither prudes or perverts but enjoy sex and are open about discussing it. While reading and looking through the book I found myself to be both curiously adventurous and also titillated by this provocative tone. And, okay, a little embarrassed at first. But I did not let that stop me. Then a bonus, my husband was immediately interested in exploration just from the cover itself. The book was already fun for me, then even more fun as a couple going through it together and trying things out, really good! There are steps that are easy to follow, exciting to try. Though "educational," there was nothing clinical about this straightforward book. It's nice to give one's imagination a bit of a boost. It was enjoyable from beginning to end. I'm thinking it'll be a nice reference book. I do plan to re-visit, frequently. There were a few things I've yet to discover. A few things that reintroduced me to my own co

Ian Kerner is a gifted writer with deep insights into sex and relationships. He's the best sex writer I have ever encountered, quite possibly the best of his generation. Kerner's work avoids the easy mistakes of most sex manuals: there are no catalogs of impossible sex positions (anatomically speaking, he says, there are only four); there's no disembodied, parental voice dispensing intimate advice (instead, Kerner bares his own humiliating experiences as a sex therapy patient), and most importantly, there is no large collection of sex facts, lacking synthesis or interpretation. Kerner has a firm grip on anatomy and physiology, but he also understands that sex isn't all about the physical. It's more about what's in our minds-- our psychology, cultural background, genetics, and evolutionary history. I get the feeling that Ian Kerner knows what really makes us tick as sexual beings. With his newest book, Sex Detox, Kerner offers what many of us could use but few would avail ourselves of-- several sessions of helpful and revealing sex therapy. Instead of visiting a live therapist, we are guided by Kerner in the form of a self-help manual. Sex Detox is designed to accommodate singles who are dating, partners who want therapy together, or coupled people whose partners are not interested in therapy. Sex Detox is modeled partly on a 12-step program. There are daily exercises and writings, and the plan asks abstinence from dating (if you are single) or sex (if you are coupled) for 30 days, with an eye towards recharging your sex life. Following the full course involves an assessment of your physical health, childhood experiences, and dating experiences. Most challenging is a section on finding your own "love map". This is the unique combination of physical and psychological factors that turn you on or off. Our "love maps", it seems, are important because they issue from deep within our psyche (the fountain of most artistic creativity), providing the raw material crucial to keeping sex fresh and original in a long-term relationship. I decided to give Kerner's Sex Detox a try. The resulting analysis of my issues seems right-on: repression from a Catholic upbringing, coupled with an inborn tendency to analyze things rather than live in the moment. When was time to write about past erotic or "peak" experiences, with an eye towards drawing my love map, I was embarrassed. I could remember great sex, bad sex, fantasies, and crushes, but no single erotic experience stood out as unique, a seamless blending of my mental and physical eros. Kerner is clearly attempting to introduce some Eastern-style mindfulness into our Western relationships. He deserves credit for taking on this gargantuan task. He perceives, and rightly so, that mindfulness would help couples appreciate each other on a daily basis and make them more likely to stick together in hard times. In addition, Kerner's gentle introduction to the relationship between our unconscious mind

Sex Detox is not what you expect. Or maybe it is. A few years ago, Sting was on Oprah. Oprah wanted to know if the rumors were true: Did Sting and his wife 'do it' in every room of the house? Yes, Sting said. Sting was supposedly talking about the Kama Sutra, but what he was really talking about were the marathon love sessions, made up of kissing for hours on end on the couch, whereupon one of the kids usually walked by and said, Ewe, get a room, guys. Sting was talking about communication, not positions. And that is exactly what Ian Kerner is talking about in his book, Sex Detox: Recharge Desire, Revitalize Intimacy, Rejuvenate your Love Life. Kerner is a sex therapist who grew up in New York City, the son of an artist, a man who lived amongst writers, artists and bohemians. This man has hit the nail on the head. No, sex is not about positions. Yes, sex is about communication, intimacy and hunger. Kerner offers couples and singles a 30-day program to help rejuvenate their love life, by 'doing without' sex. How is this possible? And why? In his preface, Kerner states: "American sex lives are broken, 'shattered,' as the old Rolling Stone song goes --and we cannot seem to make them whole...We have lost too many pieces along the way to gather ourselves up because deep down we believe we are doomed to stumble again...While our cultural exposure to sex has heightened in the last decade, our level of personal satisfaction has plummeted to a staggering low, with sexual dissatisfaction being cited more often than ever as a primary cause of divorce... ...It's time to take sex off the table so we can, once and for all, truly feast on love..." And so begins Kerner's book. He recommends people go on a 'sex fast' for 30 days and 30 nights, whereby he supplies people with readings, exercises and assignments so people can begin to feel rejuvanted by the feelings of closeness and intimacy they once felt with their loved ones. The 30-day program is divided in to sections and chapters within the book. In Part 1: Getting Started: Kerner requests that people abstain from sexual activity so they can 'do without to eventually have it all'. The most important sub-section I found in in Part I, was How to Read Your Love Map - a term first coined in the 1980s by Dr. John Money of Johns Hopkins University, which refers to the 'sexual template expressed in every individual's erotic fantasies and practices' as Kerner states in his book. This is a normal desire and wish. I am not talking about weird fantasies but the human need for communication and comfort. Kerner then continues to explain, as a therapist, is that there are a vast number of people who are out of touch with themselves, people 'who have never taken the time to explore their love maps'. The love map goes beyond blonde, blue-eyed, 36-24-36 or tall, dark, handsome. In fact, it has little to do with these physical attributes. As an example Kerner uses in the couples Detox, he talks ab

What if someone told you you could experience love, sex and intimacy as you've never imagined it in just 30 days. Would you be interested? Dr. Ian Kerner is a sex therapist and has created a formula and system to "fix" the average American's sex life in just 30 days. As the good Doctor puts it in his book, "While our cultural exposure to sex has heightened over the last decade, our level of personal satisfaction has plummeted to a staggering low." With this in mind it helps to know that you are not alone. This book will walk you through the 30 days to recharge desire, revitalize your intimacy and rejuvenate your love life. Whether you are married or single, gay or straight, male or female, young or old, you can get more out of your love life with Dr. Kerner's book "Sex Detox." But wait there is a catch. You have to be active in the program. Dr. Kerner has day by day activities such as deep breathing exercises, keeping a Detox Diary and various discussions and quizzes throughout each day. Okay now here may be the hard part for some; you have to spend that same 30 days you are doing the activities not having sex. That's right no sex for 30 days. But at the end of that 30 days you will find your attitude toward sex, love, desire and intimacy ready to create a beautiful life for yourself. The book is divided into sections for singles and those in relationships to make it easier. Once again you have to be active in your own growth and this is where the miracle of this book works out. You find out your own strengths and weaknesses and your growth is your own. Dr. Kerner may not solve the world's oversexed information overload, but he can help you help yourself.