Sex and the Single Person: Dealing Honestly with the Need for Intimacy

I purchased a copy of this book just a few days before writing this review. It was a good read and really encouraging. The comments Bob makes about living the single life and the struggle and benefits of choosing to remain sexually pure were right on. I found myself laughing and really contemplating a lot of the wisdom this brother offers the reader. There is some really good stuff in this title! A must read for Christian singles.It also meant a lot to me personally because, at the time of writing this review, I am a 30 year-old, single, virgin myself. Just hearing from a guy who's 37 (older now actually as this book was written in the late 90's) talk so positively about how great it is (and 100% possible) to be happy, serve God, still be single and a virgin and have a desire to pursue the Lord more than even a wife or anything else was encouraging. But I think this book will be a blessing to more than just 30 year old virgins (grin). I think so many singles who have come through different experiences and backgrounds leading up to this point of their lives will find strength and encouragement in this book. Bob has much to say to divorced persons, widows, those who aren't virgins but have made a decision to follow God's plan and become "second virgins," and young men and women as well as older singles. I think Bob communicates his message well enough that anyone (single) reading this book can get something really positive from it.Bob makes a comment about sex that I think is really true but this truth is not what we hear in the media, the music industry, hollywood and in society today. The truth is that "sex is a drive, it's not a need." That simple fact, so often, gets distorted and, really, rejected... but it's true. This book presents some real insight and encouragement for the single who wants to please God but can be honest about the struggle with temptation and about wanting to lay hold of some practical tools for overcoming it, fleeing from sin and immorality, and running to God.This book doesn't feel like it's written by a pastor or some other authority figure or religious leader talking down to you. Nothing, by that statement, is meant as derogatory to pastors or counselors, but what I'm simply saying is that Bob talks on a level of understanding what singles deal with because he is one himself and battles the same stuff every day in his own life. The things that God has brought him through and taught him in his own life become great counsel for other singles dealing with many of the same or similar issues.Sex and the Single Person is written by a guy who understands the types of thought processes and emotional cycles that most Christian singles face. But I think it would be unfair to suggest that this book has something to say only to Christians. I believe that there are some strong messages in this work that would be very enlightening and provoking to those who haven't thought much or cared about the Christian viewpoint

It was quite refreshing to find a man over 30 who is still waiting for God's best. I was pleased to learn this! I thought the author made great points to those of us who are single and waiting as well as those who were once married or even outside of God's will prior to being a Christian. It was an honest look at sexuality from a single perspective without a preachy tone. If you are committed to living a chaste lifestyle, no matter who you are, you will find this book to be encouraging.

I've used many resources in Singles Ministry - this is one of the best.

I devoured the first half of this book the day it arrived in the mail. Bob writes in such a warm, inviting fashion. It's as if he knew exactly how I was feeling. Of course, the fact that he didn't get married until he was 37 probably accounts for his "insiders view" of the unique challenges of single life. His use of current events and insight from the Bible was refreshing. I've bought five more copies to give to friends! If you're looking to be encouraged, challenged and motivated in the areas of sexual purity, this is the book for you.