Settling for Less Than God's Best?: A Relationship Checkup for Single Women

Elsa Kok (Colopy) has written another great bible study full of great advice, easy to use checklists, and heartfelt stories to encourage, coach, and mentor single women in their journey for that someone special. Elsa reminds us that we are not alone with a loving God always at our side, therefore, we need not rush into an unhealthy relationship. Her book not only gives advice like so many others, but also provides ways to measure both parties in the relationship and the relationship itself. It is a very hands on book that gives you something to work with not just lofty theory one can't figure out how to apply. I recommend this book to anyone looking for Mr. Right, especially if your life has been filled with Mr. Wrongs previously.

The information contained in this book literally transformed the way I think about relationships and dating. What I learned here helped me realize that when I date with a "God perspective" it is much easier to rule out those who I would typically "settle" for and showed me the benefits of waiting patiently for God's best. Using the tools learned from this book I started asking the questions "what do his relationships with family, friends, and God look like? What do his past relationships look like?" - things I may not have paid much attention to before, but the answers to these questions are vitally important when getting to know someone and determining if their character is in line with my values. The checklists at the end of each chapter were helpful to show me the type of person God intends for me to be in relationship with and to give me a sort of benchmark as to the type of character traits my potential mate should have. I have shared this book with many of my single women friends, who have in turn shared it with their friends, who have all agreed that it changed their perspective on what they look for while in a dating relationship. I also gave it to my teen-aged daughter to read. I think all teen girls should read this book first before venturing out in the world of dating. It helps give them a firm foundation of what to look for, and what to avoid when considering someone as a potential mate.

Excellent "check-ups" at the end of each chapter. An easy read and very insightful. Down to earth and useful information. My 18 year old read it in a day and immediately shared it with a close friend.

This book is great for the person already dating as well as one preparing to enter into the realm of dating (or courtship).The 1st half of the book has quick tests at the end of each chapter to help you evaluate where you are, as well as advice and encouragement. The next few chapters are to evaluate your boyfreind, along with tests, and evaluations of where he is, as well as advice and encouragement. Then a chapter on your compatability (spiritual oneness) and finally chapters to evaluate how to walk away when it is not a good relationship, or stay if he is the one for you.

This book is easy to read and you don't want to put it down. I found my self hanging on every word of wisdom that Kok had to guide me through the murky waters of modern dating. You won't be disappointed!