Self Discipline and Emotional Control

Having listened to the CDs from the library, I'm ordering the DVDs online. HIGHLY recommended. Yes, his delivery is a bit over the top, which I find fun and entertaining! It adds drama and makes it more memorable, which is the whole point! I want to learn, to remember. Think about the movies you remember; aren't they the ones that stirred your emotions? This is specifically a presentation on making changes in yourself. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that my emotions need to be stirred up a bit to help me be aware of my reactions so I can work on them.

People will either love or hate Tom Miller's delivery. While it is off-the-wall, I really enjoyed it and see why he does it the way he does. It is, as he admits right up front, carefully calculated. It is engaging and effective, and the content is exceptional. About two-thirds of the way through, he even talks about the type of people who have gotten up and left the live seminars by that point. The whole point of his in-your-face approach is to put the listener emotionally off balance, then continuously show the listener how to deal with it and provide tools to deal with other high-emotion situations as well. I think this should be mandatory for everyone going through high school, and pretty much everyone else, for that matter.

Tom Miller presents a new way of approaching life nad emotions - and its a way that is not only easy to understand, but natural to apply. His off-the-wall approach keeps you interrested and wanted to learn more. I passed this along to several friends who have also immensely benefited from it. Its a great tool to help people better understand and accept themselves, which in turn helps one be happier with others. I've found a calm and peacefullness with myself that I never thought possible. This lecture was inspirational. Recommended for people with an open mind willing to give oddity a shot - if you're looking for a "calm and relaxing" meditation tape, this isn't for you! If you're tired of misery and want a new road to happiness and self-acceptance - consider Tom Miller as a new coach!

- - Although Tom Miller created this lecture primarily for work-place challenges, this was the very best self-help tape set that we purchased when our 24-year marriage reached the `EXTREMELY SERIOUS TROUBLE' stage and the marriage counselors were taking forever (plus hundreds of dollars) just to introduce the slightest idea of change. And although my hubby is usually quite offended by ultra-outgoing `clown-like' people, he was laughing and comically playing along with Tom's hilarious antics in no time, AND he even paused the tape to find a notebook for taking notes!! - - The lecture correctly and efficiently identified the few most commonly held unrealistic thought patterns, fears and reactive behaviors that had generated so many of the problems in our lives. But the majority of the lecture focused was on `why' most people have adapted so many unrealistic perceptions and hurtful, counterproductive behaviors AND he then provides numerous, down to earth, realistic examples and `how to' exercises to truly help us implement immediate, necessary changes to correct our irrational and counterproductive thoughts and behaviors. - - The concept that I like the best is that Tom acknowledges that we can never change anyone else but he challenges us to balance our freedom of expression with reason. He confirms that no person's feelings or emotions are wrong or incorrect, he simply asks us to recognize how often we're "over-paying" in emotional turmoil and generating conflicts just to feed our feelings and counterproductive emotional-based habits - - The only recommendation that I would have is that if this set is available on video, I'd get the video version because Tom is so animated that we can't always visualize his antics.

I have watched the video presentation and listened to the audio tape as well. Dr. Tom Miller, a humurous and definitely unique in his presentation style, demonstrates how to take control of your emotions. He says that outside forces don't control your emotions. You do. When John Denver sings "Sunshine...on my shoulders, makes me happy" Dr Miller dismisses that as nonsense. He says the sun does only one thing; it shines. What makes you happy, is you. Interesting, enjoyable, educational and humurous.