Secret Keeper Girl Kit: The Power of True Beauty and Modesty

This item is the best! My daughter loves to spend time with me and what better way to make her feel special is to go on one to one dates with her. She loved it and she learned good moral lessons as well. I highly recommend it!!

I'm starting this series of dates with both my 11 and 9 year old daughters after attending a mini-conference put on by the same group that published the book. The mother's book and the daughter's diary are set up well. Just enough information to outline a simple object lesson and then room to structure the date in a way that works for you--whether the date is out at a fancy restaurant or spa something more cost effective like your own home. My 11 year old likes the child's diary especially, it has lots of blank lined paper at the very end for her to write in and room to add photos if you're a scrap booking fanatic. Both girls were a little self conscious at first with some of the suggestions. Getting a hand massage in a fancy restaurant was different, and my youngest was very nervous about the facial--but both are catching on to what the dates are intending to do--pamper & lavish attention on them. Enough that now they are reading ahead and looking forward to their own date time with me and actively making suggestions about what to do to make the date more special for them. The neat thing is that they don't realize that all this special time is helping them to build confidence in themselves. Something I wouldn't have said my girls were lacking in particular. But seeing how much these dates lift them up, I'm kind of amazed at how much some quality time with mom is doing for their confidence level(like super high quality time--time set aside & not intruded upon by anything else happening in the house.) A word of warning, following through with ALL the dates takes some planning & effort. The author does offer low cost alternatives, but there are some expenses that are unavoidable if you follow each date as outlined (especially the shopping date.) I was a little worried that the 11 year old might find the material "young" and was ready to change if she didn't want to follow the recommended format of listening to an audio track on the way to the date, going on the date, filling out the questions in the diary, then listening to an audio track on the way home. But so far, she's going along with it. The object lessons are simple, biblically based. Each date has a key verse. The lesson can seem somewhat obvious (and thus my fear the 11 year old would be too sophisticated for it) but sometimes less is more. We manage to fill the whole time with talk even when it goes far from the intended subject--and the lessons are so basic, its easy to bring the conversation back. Because I've got two daughters and only one summer, 16 great dates is kind of tough to schedule. So we've agreed as a family to combine a few dates and bring both girls (like the facial & the shopping dates.) But I've been having some great conversations when each daughter has their own date. I know the book is recommended for groups, but I'd tell any mom to be selfish and enjoy the time with her daughter alone. The dynamic changes dramatically when its one o

What a neat book and kit to use with your daughter! One thing the description doesn't say very well is the kit includes a mom guide, a secret keeper girl diary and cd and stickers. When you select it above it also suggests you should buy the diary. (I ended up with an extra diary to return...bummer) Cool book. - The cd is a neat addition to the date night.

My daughter (10) and I invited three of her friends and their moms to join us as we journey through this book and its companion, Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power of Modesty. As a small group, we are having so much fun and learning so much about each other. We meet one week and discuss the concepts from the books and plan our date and then we have our date on another night. We are planning this as a year-long journey, so there is no rush. If you are interested in using this in a small group environment, I would recommend limiting the numbers to 3 or 4 additional girls and their respective moms. Our girls all know each other, but coincidentally they do not attend the same school, church or social events. Therefore, they have expressed how "safe" they feel sharing their feelings and concerns and knowing that it's not going to get spread around. The moms have to feel safe too, as you never know what your daughter might share out of the blue. The more you can work together with the other mothers, the better the conversation can flow. Keep asking questions and truly listen. In a safe, honest environment, you'll be amazed what you will learn and how open your daughters are to the message of modesty and learning who they really are - not who the world says they ought to be. Enjoy the journey with your daughter.

Dannah Gresh has created a set of books that are completed with a CD by Rebecca St. James. This is a book set for 8-12 year old girls who are interested in inner and outer beauty. There are eight fun ideas for things like tea, parties, facials and shopping trips. The Diary has lined pages and "devotional-style" paragraphs for contemplation. The Secret Keeper Girl book seems to be a "planning book" for moms and also includes information on fashion, like information on false advertising and the example of Kate Winslet's picture on GQ. I remember my mother sending me to a class that talked about the subjects in this book, but I can tell you, this book is way more fun! You give your daughter the Diary book and she can listen to the CD. Also included: Recipes for facials Affirmations of Beauty Fashion Tips ~The Rebecca Review