Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage

This is a great book! Lewis and Hendricks do a great job of explaining why the leaderless marriage concept simply does not work (would you work for an organization that had no leader?). They also address the fallacies behind the traditional roles (i.e. mom stays at home, while dad brings home the bacon)and suggest that there must be another alternative. The reader will get a crash course in the differences between men and women and what each person needs to perform their biblical roles. With a national divorce rate of more than 50%, its obvious that what we have been trying doesn't work. Lewis and Hendricks appeal to the reader to return to God's original design for marriage. Prepare to have your paradigms challenged.

Of all the books my Finacee and I have read to prepare for marriage, this is by far our favorite! The authors challenge the myth of the roleless marriage and establish that God has given the husband and wife unique roles. The husband is a Servant-Leader, and the wife is a Helper-Lover. In doing so they fearlessly take on the "S-word", what submission really means. It's not her role (as if God created a woman to be a mere doormat!), but merely a response to her husbands Servant-Leadership as she embraces her own role as a Helper-Lover.The authors provide a picture of the culture for which Paul was writing, and show that it is suprisingly cosmopolitan like our own. Where others try to twist controversial portions of the scriptures to fit modern ideas, these authors uncover the ancient wisdom of God and bring it to life in the 21st century.

My first marriage was a roleless marriage--one of "equality." That didn't work. The models provided to me have been traditional marriages and roleless marriages. I haven't liked what I've seen. Then I heard about the Biblical marriage and that it wasn't the traditional marriage. My boyfriend, now fiance, treats me so well and said that this was the Biblical experience. I didn't believe until I attended the Family Life marriage conference .... It was there that I learned of this book. It's convincing with sound, Biblical reasons. It explains how the S word works for both partners to be empowered and feel loved. I no longer consider submission to be allowing dominance but rather following the leader of our family. As my friend said, God asks us to do roles that are harder. I'm up for the challenge!

If you want a clear, biblical, not traditional, but biblical look at marital roles, this book is excellent. I give it top marks. I think it is a must read.

The best of the "Christian Marriage" genre. I've read several books on marriage and this is probably the most practical. It tackles the tough questions like: Is it important to have a stay-at-home parent? What does it mean for a husband to be a servant leader? And, what does the Bible mean when it instructs women to be submissive to their husbands? My wife and I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who's interested in a Biblical perspective of modern marriage