Refuge: A Pathway Out of Domestic Violence and Abuse

I found this book to be very helpful. I have been in a bad relationship for almost 20 years. This detective has done more to "open my eyes" to the reality of my situation. I can relate to the book so well it is almost scary. Mr. Stewart explained behaviors of the abusive person and I can see everything so clearly now. The only thing I can disagree with him is in the 12 month escape plan. I do believe it is a great thing for those who are able to find a person or family who will let them live with them until they can get on their feet. The downside is that it will be extremely hard to find people who are willing to take on ALL of your physical and monetary needs, especially with children in the home. SO, 4 stars, this book has done more to make me think cleary than I would have ever dreamed.

Det.Sgt.Stewart has done a wonderful job of bringing this subject to light from the perspective of a professional who has been in the trenches. Many books are written by counselors, pastors and others, who have a more cerebral approach to the subject of domestic violence. The author has written a bare bones factual book from someone who has actually been in the homes minutes after the events happened. He brings insight and compassion needed to address the abuse but also offers suggestions that work. If one needed to literally walk through the system, with someone who has seen the outcomes of abuse, he would be the perfect guide.In lieu of having him personally take you to each person you would need to see, this book is the alternative. I recommend it highly. R F Cochran- Author- Echoes Of A Silent River

Don Stewart is an expert in dealing with domestic violence. He has seen the effects of violence on women and children, and provides a much needed wake-up call to the Christian community, challenging pastors and churches to become actively involved in providing safety and help for families instead of pretending the problem doesn't exist or looking the other way. For victims of violence, this book gives hope and practical help. It is a "must read" for every pastor, family member, friend, and caregiver of DV victims, as well as for DV survivors.