Reframing: Neuro-Linguistic Programming

I love it, I love it, I love it! From the very first page, I was hooked. This explains the reframing technique spawned by Virginia Satir and later tweaked by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. This book is great for NLP-lovers as well as regular people who want to learn how to phrase things correctly to allow others to see things DIFFERENTLY in life. For instance: "This hotel is a dump and there's dust everywhere and paint chipped off the wall," can be reframed to be, "This hotel is a historical antique and it's been left the way it was a hundred years ago, isn't that amazing?" Also, this explains how people miscommunicate based on interpretations of tonality. For instance, "Oh it's you again." If the emphasis is on the word "again" then people assume it's a negative statement. However, there's absolutely nothing that implies it being negative at all and can be a very positive statement when stated the same way. Chapter two talks about "negotiating parts" that conflict and how to bring them together. Some people call it parts integration. This explains in detail how to fit it all together. For instance, "A part of me wants to do this, and a part of me wants to do that." This explains how to comfortably decide what needs to be done. Reframing on page 14 - Before: "I feel terrible because my boss always criticizes me." Reframe: "He must really notice the work you do, and like you enough to want to help you improve it." This book is REALLY a keeper. I love this book probably better than all my current NLP and hypnosis books.

Strengths:practical skills and results can be gained from this book.You can apply reframing in many areas of your life and save money for therapy sessions. Weaknesses:for some people reading long transcripts (describing the action)may not be suitable. It can be boring,then your brain has no desire in continuing the reading.However if you have found some specific areas you can benefits,you may want to read this book.I'm glad I bought this book. hope it improves your life too.

A careful reading of this book will unearth a wealth of information, not only about remedial and generative models developed in early NLP, but also how and why models were designed as they were to begin with. If one keeps that in mind, as well as the primary presupposition (map/territory), there will be no vast discrepancy between old and new NLP, nor even DHE. You can see the roots right here. The authors themselves make a point in saying that the Six Step Reframing pattern, for instance, was only structured the way it was as a teaching tool, and that it should be forgotten once it was integrated with other communication processes. The Parts metaphor, they say, is only a one of a number of ways of mapping "as if," perhaps only a way of "chunking" behavior. Bandler is cleverer than everybody thinks: if he doesn't use parts as a metaphor, then what are all the "machines" he's talking about? What about the spacial/visual representations of decision making strategies, et al? Aren't they essentially the same thing? The problem is people tend to forget that these are not actuallities but only useful ways of talking.This book takes the simpler version of reframing from "Frogs" and really opens it up, describes how it can be used in conjunction with anchoring and linguistic patterns, until it begins to disintegrate as a specific and separate model and becomes a direction.For another possible view of these issues, see Anti-Oedipus: capitalism and schizophrenia, by Deleuze and Guattari, which dances along to similar music, including the contradictions...

I think it sometimes helps to think of Bandler and Grinder as intrepid explorers. That is to say, much of the early development of NLP consisted of tracking known experts - Perls, Satir, Erickson, Korzybski, etc. - sifting through a wealth of information and finding those vital bits that provided the key to everything else.In the case of reframing, this was already a well-established concept in certain circles when B & G started to develop NLP. The three founders of the Brief Therapy unit at Palo Alto (Watzlawick, Weakland and Fisch) had brought out "Change", which also covers reframing in some detail, back in 1972, for example.But the value of the B & G book is not to be measured by how well it tallies with earlier works. It's importance lies, I suggest, in what it tells us about how NLP developed as it did.As you can see from earler reviews, the idea of "parts" (partly! derived from Virginia Satir's "parts parties") is not to everyone's taste. Joseph Riggio, a well respected NLP trainer, suggests that this approach can produce "fractionation and fragmentation". Yet there are lots of people who find that dealing with "parts" fits very well with their view of the world. And after all, NLP is first and foremost about what works *for you*.Over the last few years it has become clear that there is no such thing as "bog standard NLP". Everyone who gets involved will have their own ideas, views, techniques and methods.My advice would be that this book is just one of several key texts that trace the history of NLP. Whether or not, in the end, you decide that the ideas herein are suitable for you, I think this book will inevitably help you to gain a greater understanding of what lies at the heart of NLP.

I just love the way that Bandler and Grindler add personalized snippets to illustrate the finer points of using your brain. This book reframes reframing. Have you ever wondered how you can go about thinking and wording certain situations for yourself or others? Have you ever been delighted and flabbergasted by someone else's profound view on situations? If not, read this and get some insight. If you have, but you are still wondering how you did it, learn to do mental shifts quicker, do more of it and learn how to do it well.