Reconcilable Differences: With Study Guide

If I said I thought this book should be given as a wedding present, it might seem a bit over the top. However, I think any couple that has been married at least a few years, maybe five, should read this book. It gives so many insights that help one understand the dynamics in a relationship. It saved my marriage many years ago. It helped both my husband and I to focus on the only thing we could change -- our own selves-- and quit trying to change the other person. I can't recommend it enough.

This book is a great resource for troubled couples, divorced couples and counselors looking for insight on how to deal with any of the above.

I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THIS CHRISTIAN BOOK, ALTHOUGH WE ARE NOT RELIGIOUS. WHEN OUR SECOND SON WAS 3 WEEKS OLD I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH MULTPLE SCLEROSIS. OVER THE SUBSEQUENT 19 YEARS I HAVE BECOME QUADREPLEGIC. MY HUSBAND HAS TAKEN THIS HARD. HE IS ATHLETIC SO MY LACK OF HEALTH HAS BEEN MORE THAN LIFE ALTERING. DURING THE LAST 4 YEARS HE'S BEEN ANGRY AND FELT ALONE AND OVERWHELMED. SOMETIME IN THE LAST FEW YEARS HE BEGAN AN AFFAIR WITH AN ABLEBODIED ATHLETIC WOMAN. HE LEFT ME 8 MONTHS AGO TO MOVE IN WITH HER. . I'M SHARING THIS INFORMATION TO EMPHASIZE, EVEN UNDER OUR EXTREME CIRCUMSTANCES, THERE IS HOPE!!!!!!! I RESISTED SEXUAL OVERTURES OF OTHERS, WELL INTENDED PRESSURE TO FILE FOR DIVORCE AND OFFERS TO GET "EVEN". WE'RE BACK TOGETHER, IN MARRIAGE COUNSELING, ENJOYING EACH OTHERS' FRIENDSHIP AND TRYING TO MAKE A NEW LIFE TOGETHER. IF WE HAVE A CHANCE, ANY COUPLE DOES. WE HAVEN'T STRICTLY FOLLOWED TALLEY'S GUIDELINES BUT WE HAVE APPLIED HIS GENERAL TENETS. THEY OBVIOUSLY HAVE MERIT. BELIEVE WHAT YOU READ IN THIS BOOK!!!!!! THERE IS HOPE. EVEN IF WE DON'T "MAKE IT" IN THE LONG RUN, WE'LL BE WITHOUT ANAMOUSITY AND FRIENDS. WE'RE WORKING TOWARD OUR 29TH MARRIAGE ANNIVERSITY. MARY & CHUCK FRIEDL

I found "Reconcilable Differences" to be full of insight on how intimate relationships progress and also on the differences between men and women. It encourages couples in all stages of marriage (or separation) to seek a quality friendship with their spouse (ex). I recommend it to anyone who desires to improve there marriage, but particularly those who are separated or divorced.