Real Love: The Truth about Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships

I had a major crisis in my life recently-A sort of Emotional Drowning, which caused me to desperately look for ANY sort of rescue. If you get this book, you can see me in the last chapter, the spouse with no hope he could see, except to leave his wife who he stilled loved. So here I was, getting more and more weary of nothing working--shrinks, marriage counselors, and even some ministers----wondering how did things get this bad, and ready to just let the drowning waves come over me, when I remembered something. A few years back--back when my life was super--I loved my wife, she loved me, we both loved our kidsa---a close friend, actually a fundamental Christian, of which I am the latter not the former, had mentioned just in passing that I really should not just "love" my wife but should have "unconditional love" for her--"Yeah, whatever, so what" was my response-my wife and I loved each other a lot, so what's the point if we call our love some title. So, before I slipped below the waves, I gave it one last shot---I Googled "Unconditional Love" and "book", with no real optimism that I would find anything to help me. This book popped up-Simple: I bought it---It saved my life!! The reason that I gave you my history is to show you that I had a BIG TIME NEED for the stuff in this book when I looked for it---That NEED was the ONLY reason I even looked for a book like this, much less read it. Had I read it about 5 years ago, when things "appeared" to be going just fine in my life, my reaction to the book would have been radically different. My review would have looked like this: 3 Stars "This book is a very interesting read--filled with good concepts to follow, that, however, really don't apply to me, but might apply to you, because my life is great right now and because the small increase in love I might get above what I give and get right now, wouldn't be worth the effort necessary to do the stuff in this book. So I "could" recommend reading this book for how Dr Baer's interesting theories help other people--people who I really have sympathy for, but nothing in common with---they're not like me and my wife. We love each other a lot, and don't have any problems like those people in the book. Therefore, although I could recommend this book for its interesting theories, I don't really see any reason to read this book unless you have allowed your life to go down hill so far that you're like those people in the book". The title of my review: "If You Don't Think You Need This Book---You Do!!!". Looking back did I "need" a few years ago to put into practise the stuff in this book---You betcha. It took desperately trying to "do" the stuff in this book while I was drowning to realize that had "the light gone on" back when things "apparently" were just fine, my situation definitely would not have gotten this bad. But, sometimes I still seem to have to rationalize the deterioration of my marriage. I think--"Not my fault--I didn't know anything was wro

This book ends up better than it starts out and it starts out well. I have seen it change the lives of people I know and I am buying them and giving them away as fast as I can afford to. The principles explained are easy to understand, but more difficult to apply. However the rewards of application are worth every effort. Telling the truth about ourselves as Dr. Baer teachers allows the light to come into our hearts freeing us from darkness and self deceit.

Have you ever wondered why an intelligent and motivated person like yourself finds it so difficult to change your life? I did and in reading this book and its predecessor "The Truth About Relationships", I found what the self-help books I've read have left out--that changing your life is more than affirmations, deep breathing exercises, and even self-discipline and commitment. This book shared with me what really makes people happy and how to find the happiness that creates the lasting changes and true happiness that you always wanted but never seemed to grasp. Don't assume that you know what "Real Love" is--you may not have really experienced it. But don't despair--you really can change. Do yourself a favor and buy, beg, or borrow (but don't steal) this book! It just might teach you a thing or two!!